The Long Game

***This article is much differently written and formatted than my usual posts because I felt the need to vent quickly and shortly. However, as you guys can see I’m back so expect regular posts from here on***

“The ability to discipline yourself to delay gratification in the short term in order to enjoy greater rewards in the long term, is the indispensable prerequisite for success.” Brain Tracy

For the majority of my childhood life forced me to delay gratification. As a child I didn’t grow up in the best of neighborhoods (actually, one of the worst) and my family didn’t have the financial means to live as smoothly as I would have liked. I can recall getting 50⊄ to a dollar at primary school because the family went through some extra rough financial patches. I remember being 14 years old throwing a tantrum at my dad because my friends were able to get things they wanted and I couldn’t. He let me finish then told me to suck it up and be grateful for what I had. In secondary school, when I was given an allowance he would always say, “it isn’t much but make it work” and this carried on until I got to college. I had to “ban my belly” for the sake of enjoying something at a later date. With the money for school, I would save 90% of it to have the chance to go to the movies with a girl or chill somewhere over the weekend. At the time I didn’t fully understand why I had to be the one to live this life; I also didn’t like that I did. But many years later and a little wiser, as I observe people around me more, I’ve come to appreciate those rough times because it built true character in me.

This pushed me to become innovative with the way I spent my money and how to make it. When I first understood how to torrent movies, I began selling DVDs to my teachers for $10 and when I built up a little capital, decided to sell anything that could get me money. You see, these experiences allowed me to see life not through a rose-tinted glass but the glass that’s clearest. Born from it is my love for business and entrepreneurship which to this day has stuck with me. If I didn’t go through those experiences of not having I don’t think I would have been this hungry to push myself and move forward in life. You see, the long game is not one that is wanted in todays world, people my age have grown up in an era where everything is provided quickly. From the evolution of high speed internet to Tinder, where you can easily bed more women than our ancestors could have ever imagined after no more than a 5 minute conversation. These luxuries afford us the opportunity to focus on other things; some use it to provide value for themselves and others whilst most become a permanent resident of consumer-town. Back when these things weren’t easily acquired you had to work ferociously to move up in society and because of that, people never felt entitled. They understood the long game for what it was and didn’t complain, but rather adapted to the circumstances life threw and dealt with it accordingly. This article is my first since being back and it really is for those people who are forced to live below their means for the sake of a much more fruitful tomorrow. Though it may seem that success is touching everyone but yourself, see it as success’ flirtations giving you frequent eye contact to let you know your approach is welcomed. Though you may falter and give in to temptations do not make it a frequent habit because as the Stoics believed, excessive pleasure can enslave you and create in you a dependency that must be fulfilled. If you are impulsive, learn to withhold and become more mindful. Truly study those who enjoy long term success in all spheres of their lives and one would realize that delaying pleasure today goes a long way in sustaining pleasure tomorrow. There is a popular statement in the Red Pill that goes, “Good things come to those you wait work” and it is definitely a true statement. However, be aware that though you work hard, it does not equate to instant success. Envision what you want from life, plan, execute but also be patient… true success isn’t a flame – quickly lit and quench – but rather like water – slow to build and slow to empty.

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Opposites Attract

“What good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness.” 

― John Steinbeck

From a tender age, I have always heard two trains of thought when it came to dating compatibility. On one end, there is the similarity belief that focuses on being with someone very similar to oneself; on the other is the complementarity belief that says opposites attract and one needs an opposite (of some sort) to have a successful relationship. In a blue pill, egalitarian aspiring world, the former tends to be the pushed belief for men when trying to coerce intimacy from women. Drawing from personal experience, I remember my logic of trying to identify with women as a way to attain intimacy as I believed creating as little friction as possible was the best way to her heart. Suffice it to say, as I got older I realized this belief was the furthest thing from the truth.

Blue Pill men today have been brought up in the belief that everyone is somewhat equal. This ideology has picked up an immense amount of traction over the past 20 odd years as Feminism and other groups have become major influencers in the culture – especially in the education sector. As a result, they now have significant vehicles, such as liberal universities and the film industry to push their idealized beliefs. Now, with young people having been brought up being educated by TV shows and movies, these beliefs take root from a tender age. This egalitarian belief spreads its wings into the dating game and identification game becomes the default. Since everyone is equal and male-female is deemed as ‘social constructs’, men are taught that they can act similarly to women. As such, men now believe that by behaving similarity to women, they will be noticed and appreciated for their efforts. I find myself laughing at this belief because it is clear that the evidence does not support this way of thinking. For every nice guy that changed himself to be more like the girl and was successful (define success), there are thousands of men fucking the girlfriends of guys like these. One can even observe men becoming illuminated as they post stories online bemoaning the fact that their beloved snowflakes are being pumped and dumped by assholes – men who are the complete opposite.

Through simple observation, one can see that nature is inherently unequal and somewhat opposite – this stays true for men and women. Identification game is not an effective or efficient game tactic because it doesn’t take into account that opposites truly do attract. In the eyes of a woman, she is attracted to that which she has not yet experienced. Today, we can see this happening as most girls now have become independent and are pushing to ‘explore’ and ‘experience’ life (the carousel) so she will better ‘understand herself’. Consequently, when one approaches these women with traits and likes similar to hers, she sees that individual as someone who has not yet understood himself or experienced life and thus, is not attractive. Any other man now has become much more attractive in the eyes of said woman because they all hold experiences that she has yet to explore. This is evident in Sheryl Sandberg’s famous quote:

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.”

Quotes like these illicit aggressive responses by crushed blue pill men because they have spent their lives trying to identify and become more like women that they now see their logic has been flawed since its inception. Worse yet, these men may even agree with what Sheryl says as another way identify with the female gender – the rational of blue pill men is appalling.

The idea of making oneself similar to women is highly unattractive to women. In their own theory, they may cry and say they want such men, but in actuality it proves contradictory. Science also debunks this train of thought. Based on studies done, it sheds light on the belief between similarity vs complementarity. All participants in this study were female, so it does provide a great setting. The results shows that complementary partnerships (submissive people with dominant partners and vice versa) reported more satisfaction than did those with similar partners. Another study in 1991 found that women in complementary pairs liked each other more after interacted for 75 minutes than did women in non complementary pairs. These results suggest that complementarity between two partners enhances their attractiveness to each other. In being a dominant opposite, you provide a strong frame for the relationship to grow and for her femininity to flow. Without that masculine presence, hypergamous doubts will set in and she will take it upon herself to fill that void, whether by becoming more masculine or finding a masculine guy. In being a weak submissive, you become a beta orbiter or at best, her ‘best friend’. Similarity in the realm of inter-gender dynamics will never truly be natural or satisfactory, strive to be polarizing in your conquest as it provides the rock and frame they all yearn to live in.

The Energies (Short Story)

In growing as a young writer, I’ve decided to refine my craft through the use of different forms of writing. As such,  I will also be releasing short stories on the 2nd and 4th Fridays of every month. Enjoy.


The Thursday night is quiet, not unusual as the clock only struck 6pm. On the prowl you notice women in their short skirts looking for a mistake to add to their collection, men watching sports on TV while consuming an unhealthy amount of beer and the background music is just loud enough to get you through the awkward silences but not loud enough to make communication awkward. In the darkened corners of the room are the men running scripts on unsuspecting young girls no older than 25. With each giggle the men are validated and continues their methodical series of questions, push-pull, amused mastery techniques. In the more lit areas near the sports spectators are the men with their girlfriends, laughing at their stale jokes just to get by while their eyes occasionally wander to the younger, more beautiful women in the clothes of fornicators. One particular man is all alone, though he has had many invitations to be occupied but none met his standard. He’s calm but his aura is one of dominance, drawing every fresh poon nearby. He sips his whisky cocktail, thinking that tonight would not give him the release he’s yearning for. In the corner of his eyes however, the door opens slowly and he becomes aware of a delicate specimen.

She enters the room with a meek confidence that draws men’s eyes in her vicinity. Not uncommon to her, she reacts with a bright smile that doesn’t do too much but is very inviting. Moments pass and she figures out her path – slowly strutting her petite body to the bar. She glimpses at the man, analyzing his exterior which screamed manly; the leather jacket, dark denim jeans and tall boots that only a powerful man can feel comfortable in. The bartender quickly notices her waiting and gets her drink order. In the distance, the man looks at her, pondering for another moment until he finally decides to make his move. He walks over with slowly, with an aura of purpose. He introduces himself with a touch on her elbows, notifying her of his intent and asks her name. She turns to him with a calm but surprised expression as though this has never happened to her before. As she tries to read him, his gaze pierces through her which doesn’t scare but reveals the type of man he is. Unconsciously, her hands roam, touching her hair and giving off a shy smile while he replies with a slight smirk that oozes confidence. She introduces herself, the man instantly noticing the tone of her voice elevating higher as she continues to speak, giving away her nervousness. His years of gaming women made this an easy task; he chats her up a bit, making her giggle without talking much and leaving an air of mystery to cloak himself. Without a missed beat, he calmly goes to her ear and whispers something that makes her teeth and lips come together. He then holds her hand, leading her outdoors while those onlookers’ eyes become fixated at what just transpired.

While leaving the room, her mind races as she thinks of something to ask, something to say, but in his presence she simply enjoys the bubble he has created. As they both get outdoors, he reaches into his pockets for a cigarette, lights it and inhales deeply while gazing onto the horizon. The orange sunset reminds him of the African jungle where predators roam in search of food before sundown. He smirks at the thought, with images of fornication flashing in his mind while the tobacco provides him with a mild high. She looks at him with an expression of wanting but doesn’t follow through in saying what is on her mind. Exhaling the thick fog of smoke from his lungs, he turns to her and wraps his arm around her waist, making concrete his intentions for the night. Though she isn’t used to this, the subtle dominance he exercises over her through his mannerisms immediately puts her at ease, almost as if she knew him her entire life. He looks down into her radiating eyes, knowing this is what he wants, and goes in for the kiss. She hesitates for just a moment but finally gives in to her newfound vice, passing her hand on his stomach letting him know she wants more. He pulls back slowly and looks back at her but she’s not able to sustain eye contact. He looks to his watch, pensively considers his options for an extended second. Carrying her by the waist, he leads her to the car while she rests her head on his broad shoulders. A few moments of driving and he stops at the top of a secluded precipice. He exits the vehicle, leans on the front of his car overlooking the final moments of the beautiful sunset while he lits another cigarette. She comes out of the car and walks to him, but this time not with the meek confidence of earlier but with an attitude that screams sensuality and femininity. The scent of tobacco draws her in and she realizes that as the sun goes down for the day, so to will her guard.

Male Friendships

“Masculinity is about being a man within a group of men. Above all things, masculinity is about what men want from each other”
 ― Jack Donovan

In today’s world, genuine masculine friendships have become sort of a rarity. Film writers and directors have realized this and have been able to tap into this need by portraying characters who were surrounded with other like-minded men to go about their business. Band of Brothers, Ocean’s 11, Goodfellas, Sons of Anarchy and Hangover are all examples of such shows that epitomize brotherhood in their own unique way but evoke the same feeling from male viewers who begin to feel an emptiness in their lives if they aren’t truly part of a gang. In traditional times, boys would grow up within a core group who would have shared similar interests and had each other’s back. This came about naturally as men were pushed both directly and indirectly to make close male bonds with others who they would be able to build with. This was further pushed as boys would be given the room to be boys and through mutual struggles, being part of sports teams and fighting, a close bond would develop. However, as the world became more feminized, genuine friendships began to decrease at drastic rates and this can be seen today where millions of men are shown to have little to no close friends.

Due to the West’s prosperity and security, the life and death need (or lack thereof) to have a group of men at one’s side has also played its part. As a result, men have become much more feminine, untrustworthy and unreliable – traits that other men do not value. Added to this, the stark fatherless rates in society for young boys play a massive part as these boys grow up not knowing how to be men and what men do. Thus, masculine traits are not idealized and they grow up looking at the world from a more feminine perspective. It has also become common for men to openly boast about not having male friends or even speaking of the need for friends with disdain because “no one can be trusted”. This thorough brainwashing has created an environment where men do not see other men as individuals to build with but simply competition in the sexual market place as women are prioritized as #1.

This however is not a new phenomena since competition has always been present, but the priority to place women above a man’s interests has made male-only friendships susceptible to toxicity. Moreover, the infiltration of women into traditionally all-male spheres have also made male bonding a difficult task.  This was seen throughout history but it was permanently sealed when women began to enter into the workplace in mass numbers. The subsequent female control over men’s meet ups also etch into marriage where men now have to ‘ask permission’ from their wives to have meet-ups with other guys. Institutions that were once home to brotherhoods have now opened their gates to women and this inevitably changes the social dynamic. From a place of solitude and openness, these men are now tasked with keeping up appearances since sexual competition is added to the equation subconsciously. As soon as women enter into a male-only dynamic, the goal changes from growing better to making it comfortable enough for their presence – this ultimately defeats the purpose of these institutions. Though societies such as the Freemasons still adhere to the male-only tradition (at least in my country), there are hundreds of other institutions/groups (such as the Military) that have fallen to such a great test.

Having completed the Band of Brothers series, it was blatant how at ease and comfortable these men were among themselves while in the face of death. These men trained and fought together so much that their friendships would lead them to self-sacrifice for their brothers in arms. These are the types of friendships that have now become unimaginable since men won’t even consider putting themselves in an uncomfortable position for the sake of the other’s comfort/benefit. Having spoken to older men who didn’t see the need for friendships earlier in their lives, they have all regretted not taking the opportunity to genuinely form relationships with other men. They all stated that they have very little chance now to grieve, talk, console and the like with others since these are not genuinely possible with women. Consequently, these men become depressed and unhappy as they are not able to experience being part of a strong brotherhood. This especially affects veterans who went to war and came back home only to experience the world completely different. These guys tend to go into depression and become suicidal if they aren’t properly rehabilitated and meshed into civilized society. But, what gets them to the stage of contentment and peace? Having connected with other veterans who understand and experienced what they experienced. All the emotions and stories that they can’t speak to their wives, girlfriends and associates about would all be buried in their psyche if not for their fellow colleagues.

Jack Donovan’s “Way of Men” is an excellent resource into the benefits of forming a tribe of men to grow with. This group will help build connections that lasts as long or longer than marriage since male friendship is felt more deeply and strongly than female’s. Furthermore, these groups create a level of competition that is needed to truly evolve and become actualized. They push men to hold a standard that needs to be maintained for the sake of the group. It forms a togetherness that refines the masculinity of each member and facilitates in the expansion of their physical dominance, mental dominance and the like. Without the pressure or competition, these men become dull and easily defeated.

The need for bonding and purpose runs through the veins of all men but in the past few decades it has been wrongly channelled toward female companionship which doesn’t yield comparable benefits. Forming genuine bonds will not only make life much more exciting, it will provide opportunities for mutual growth and an edge that cannot be substituted by another.

Dominance and Leadership: Relationships

“…Masculinity pertains to male dominance as femininity pertains to female subordination.” – Sheila Jeffreys

Recently I was conversing with a girl in my life when she mentioned her satisfaction with the dynamic we hold in our relationship. She referred to the dynamic that assumes me as the leader and herself, the follower. For most men, this dynamic is one that does not exist in their favor since women of this generation are brought up being taught that men are nothing without them and they need to control men’s interests. This is particularly prevalent because men have also been indoctrinated in the belief that they should just be grateful to have women in their lives. However, these teachings of a matriarchal system goes against the nature of female sexual arousal. Power and superiority, two of the essential traits that trigger arousal in a woman, is needed for a relationship to be become and remain successful. By men accepting a secondary role, they covertly imply that their women are superior and this implication diminishes any emotion (other than contempt) very quickly. This creates a social and sexual dynamic where men are required to constantly aim for approval or else they are not considered ‘real men’. They are advised to follow what they are told (“I’d have to ask my wife/girlfriend if I can…”) and women’s wants are prioritized above their individual interests.

Historically, men have been the leaders in society and by extension, relationships and the family unit. Though this entailed making all major decisions – both easy and difficult – as well as always being ‘on’, men enjoyed and thrived in this position. Because men are wired to be natural leaders and problem solvers, this position typically allowed them to actualize their potential which helped both the family and society at large. In a patriarchy, women expect their men to be strong, decisive and masculine because they understand that these traits ultimately make their lives more fulfilling than it is. Only these women understand that by assuming the responsibility of being the assistant in the relationship that they get more out of life. The truth is, a woman deeply craves a dominant leader in her life. However, because of the current social standing and women’s adeptness for the cunning, if men are subservient, women will not vocalize their want for a powerful man. They may continue to be in a relationship but it is usually for the ego strokes they will receive by controlling the dynamic and consequently, controlling the resources men would be able to provide that they cannot acquire on their own.

In being a submissive provider, a woman may be attracted to the idea of becoming the primary individual in a relationship, but she will never be aroused or respect it. In matters of love, arousal trumps attraction and respect does the same with love. One of the disservices men have and continue to face today is the notion that they are able to experience love in the same way a woman does. Understand this – only a woman can experience the emotional entirety of love in a way that does not make her unattractive. It is men who, regardless of emotion, must be the immovable foundation in this dynamic. This means that you don’t give yourself to fleeting feelings of love but you guide that feeling in her to make the relationship successful. Women will die believing they want a man that gives his all to her, but as soon as this wish is granted, she will feed off those vulnerabilities until there is nothing left to offer her. If you listen to any woman talk about an alpha male she is in love with, you will hear similar themes of the guy not being open with her and not changing for her. Question is, why do they not leave these relationships? It is simple, the guy is leading her into a plethora of emotions that only he can weather. As soon as he gives in and does what she says (following), she loses interest because she is in the unnatural position of leading.

From the outside looking in, the allure of leading may push a woman to want it but as soon as she is in the eye of the storm, she wishes for her Superman to rescue her. Only until you realize and actualize your masculine, dominant nature will you be able to attract, keep and satisfy the women in your life.

Dominance and Leadership: Culture

“An aura of dominance creates a magnetic bubble; leadership provides the direction in which that bubble travels” – Newly Sharpened

Men’s dominance and leadership throughout history has always been the driving force of a functional and thriving society. Leaders of men were championed and admired since it projected the ideal masculine experience and as a result, children looked up to them in admiration and fellow men showed immense respect. As an extension of this, their dominance and productivity were seen by women as highly attractive and arousing. This social standing and dominance forced women to try everything in their will to make themselves valuable enough to become  potential wives to these men. Furthermore, they desired big families since reproducing with dominant males meant strong, competitive genes would be passed on.

However, what happens when male dominance and leadership becomes demonized by a culture? the culture begins to destroy itself whilst its women subconsciously hope for balance to be restored. The duality of nature, especially masculine and feminine energy has always been needed for a society to fully actualize its potential. By emasculating a country’s men, a society voluntarily and/or involuntarily invites foreign men from more dominant cultures to restore this balance. A quick look at the immigrant welcoming countries shows the result of a female run society – as Chateau rightfully states, “men invade, women invite”. Since the welcoming of these foreigners, Germany and Sweden have reported rape epidemics, spike in crime rates and fear amongst citizens. The irony in all of this are the reports from multiple women calling for men to protect them. The same women who demonized violence and ‘male culture’ are now the ones demonizing men for not being strong or aggressive enough, alas, damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Female nature in an environment of violence and hostility tend to look towards their men to become more of the masculine archetype that is needed to secure survival for themselves and their family. However, when society becomes prosperous, and violence becomes much more obscure and covert, female nature thrives. At this point, a woman’s Machiavellian make up will begin to find ways in which to gain the most out of this prosperity. The men that they leaned on to secure their survival becomes the same individuals that they attempt to change, to become more subservient and sensitive. This poses as an internal quandary for most beta men because they believe by identifying with them, they become more attractive. This however is a grave mistake; when a female attempts to alter your habits, ideologies and thought processes, this in itself is a shit test. On a societal level, European men have failed this shit test by giving into the demands of Feminists and other movements that attack men in order to ‘empower’ themselves. They have taken the position of being lead rather than leading.

Nevertheless, as true to female nature, when they do succeed in getting what they want, they then search for what they now don’t have. In this context, masculinity becomes what they yearn for as society fails to offer them men that they can respect and therefore love. Looking into the birth rate most national couples have in these societies show that the women have little to no interest in passing on the couple’s genes. There are many factors that affect this but there can be a strong case that when a society becomes much more feminized, women are not inclined to make much children, if any at all. If this state remains, as is the case with many European countries, these women vote for policies that ensure the invitation of more alpha males into their lands under the guise of a humanitarian effort. Initially, this may be genuine but as these foreign men show themselves to be a sharp contrast to that of national beta males, they begin to become more attracted to them.

Slowly, as this trend continues, these foreign men become the dominant species in the land and they become the leaders of the society through attaining public (governmental and community) and private (business) positions of power. A look through the history books will show that this trend is not particularly new. The book ‘The Fate of Empires’ (I advise my readers to read this books in light of world events) details the trends through history that preceded the decline and subsequent fall of great empires. Interestingly enough: an influx of foreigners, a welfare state, the loss of a sense of duty and deferring political positions and power to women were all trends that followed the destruction of these empires. However, this all comes about through the softening of men in the nation as they have enjoyed prosperity for an extended period of time. They become more dominant intellectually but not physically; feminine but not masculine; following but not leading.

Unfortunately, I believe this decline is at a stage where enjoying seems much more beneficial than undertaking the responsibility of righting society’s wrongs. We have entered a time where transgenderism, homosexuality and nihilism are celebrated and deemed as bravery we should all admire. True male virtues are branded as evil and everything that goes against the male function and nature are not progressive enough to hold clout in the public eye. Change will only come when war breaks out and men are forced to pick up their weapons and embrace their primal, dominant nature that has brought society this far.

The Romanticization of Marriage

Whilst browsing the internet a few weeks ago, I stumbled across this graph which compared the wants of both men and women with regard to their prospective significant other in the early 1900s to that of 2008. Upon analyzing the graph I couldn’t help but noticed the major increase in the importance of mutual attraction – love. During this period I was presently doing research on marriage prior but upon coming across the graph it emphasized my need to get a better understanding of romantic love and its historical beginnings. After much reading, I decided to write this article which will talk about the history of marriage, romantic love and the relevant science on the subject.

Marriage in past generations has been described as the union between two individuals but with an extreme importance on the extended family. Young people growing up within a community or tribe would have gotten married through arrangements made by elders in the family/community. This was done because marriage was looked at as the union of two economically interdependent families rather than solely two individual people. This system can be traced back to ancient hunter-gather times where marriage brought various kin groups together to coalesce resources. Men would hunt and share food among the kin groups whilst women gathered foods served as the steady base for the families’ diet. As time went and resources became abundant, this dynamic evolved and various kin groups began breaking away from extended families and gaining prestige. Over time this allowed the creation of small elite groups with commoners below and marriage then began as a way to gain alliances among differing classes. Individuals had little to no say in who they would marry, instead parents, neighbors and states decided which unions would be most productive for both the families involved and society/tribe at large. At this point though extended family gradually lost its initial importance, romantic love was not looked at as important in comparison to economic stability and spiritual union. However, this idea changed dramatically during the late 19th century, also known as the Romantic Era.

The late 19th century saw the transformation of the West from an agricultural to industrial based society. This period saw the rise of media and visual arts: operas, plays, dramas, paintings and films. It was through these various avenues that the pursuit of romantic love, particularly in association with marriage began to take place. During this period there was resistance and push back by men and women from the Church and State. The movement revolted against convention and authority with more focus on the search for freedom in personal, political and artistic life. It saw the death of rationalism and a revival of nation’s history and the push for  the liberation of  the oppressed people of the earth. With these events taking place, marriage met a new focus where there was growing intimacy, emotionalism and sentimentalism of family life. Since the arts became a staple in western culture, what was shown and portrayed influenced society to a significant degree. In addition to this, the idea was able to be driven the way it did as a result of the West becoming an industrial based society where capitalism allowed people for the first time in history, the ability to enjoy a high level of freedom, progress, achievement, wealth and physical comfort. As a result, marriage now became viewed as a pursuit of individual happiness rather than an economic necessity.

From the period of the late 19th century to that of today, society has seen the upsurge in divorce rates, infidelity and decreased happiness in marriage. The reason for this is directly as a result of the change in the foundational perspective of marriage. To show why romantic love can not be used as the base for marriage, one has to look at the science behind romantic love.

Based on studies done by Dr. Helen Fisher, it was observed that people who were in love – when shown a picture of their loved-one, displayed heightened levels of activity in the Caudate Nucleus of the brain which is responsible for the mind’s engine for arousal, sensations of pleasure and the motivation to gain rewards. Further tests highlighted that romantic love is associated with increased levels of dopamine because the Ventral Tegmental Area (where the reward system of the brain is located) is also the center for dopamine-making cells. Low levels of Serotonin – which is responsible for maintaining mood balance – also plays a major part in the process as it produces the obsession of one’s mate, which is also central to romantic love. However, as Red Pill theology teaches, romance fades as attachment grows. Increasing levels of hormone oxytocin, which produces feeling and behaviors of attachment lowers Dopamine, resulting in decreased romantic passion. Further tests were done, this time by London scientists Bartels and Zaki. Their experiment on love showed that subjects were generally in a state of being ‘in love’ for an average 2.3 years. After this period, when the men and women were shown the pictures of their beloved, activity was shown in the Anterior Cingulate Cortex (ACC) and Insular Cortex, while 7 month lovers showed none. The ACC is the region where emotions, memories and attention interact. This established that as relationships lengthen, the brain regions associated with emotions, memories and attention respond in news ways. In LTRs, feelings of love and attachment are still present but excitement and romantic ecstasy has disappeared due to the decline in dopamine. This waning of passion is often viewed by most individuals in the West as the loss of love and therefore warrants the end of a relationship and a dire for new romance.

These tests no doubt coincide with the current divorce statistics which show that most marriages fail during the first 5-10 years. It is no coincidence that with this cultural change in perspective that divorce rates have spiked in most Western countries. It also gives a factual reason as to why the levels of affairs within marriages have increased. Both men and women have become so  addicted to the feeling of being in love that once the passion dwindles (which will ultimately occur) in the confines of marriage, they look elsewhere for quick fixes. These affairs also usually last a year or two because the passion dwindle.

The idea of romantic love being used as the base for marriage should be abandoned, especially by men since there is more to lose. As Red Pill men it is of extreme importance to not be carried away by the gripping effect of infatuation when making possibly the most important decision of ones life. Marriage affects one financially, emotionally, physically and once children become involved, it enters a whole new stratosphere. As such, vet your potential spouse as best as you can, continue to lead and never let romance cloud your judgement. Characteristics such as dependable character, good health, chastity, housekeeping abilities and fertility should all come before the fleeting feeling of lust… choose wisely.