There comes a time in every man’s life where he goes about his existence just as he was conditioned to. Conditioning is a very interesting concept because the thoughts that are attached to it. Even in the manosphere we frown upon anything thats closely related to the word conditioning because of our, previous beta-conditioning. However, regardless of our thoughts, it is and will continue to be a critical aspect of our lives because it influences all behavior. My personal belief is founded in understanding that we cannot be truly and completely free because we were created to be a slave to something or someone. The universe connects everyone and everything together, what you do will have an affect on someone or something either directly and/or indirectly. Ironically, Buddhism touches on this connection whilst cultivating a mindset of never growing attached. To be completely free would mean disconnecting ourselves with things that affect us, which is humanly impossible. If you’re religious, this concept would be easily swallowed because with the existence of God and Devil, everything you do will fall into the categories of serving either master. This slave concept, even if you do not believe in a higher power, is seen with matters of the carnal, both mental and physical. If we look back at the decisions made throughout our lives, we see that it was based on pure physical and mental needs/wants or restrictions. I think what must be noted is that we are against false conditioning, which is conditioning that is not founded on truth but rather lies. In the act of alpha-ing up and cultivating a more masculine mindset, we recondition our mind but we see no fault in it because its foundation lays in truth.
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The disturbing yet interesting thing about being conditioned is the personal belief that you’re in control of your life. However, Red Pillers (RPers) know that being born post 1950 automatically puts men at an extreme disadvantage with regards to living life in a masculine way and this directly affects our relationships with women, colleagues and our natural way of thinking. In drawing attention to my personal ‘conversion’ experience, a year ago I was living my life the way I was subconsciously taught how to. Being 20 at the time, I was already in the mindset of taking myself off of the SMP by being in a monogamous relationship with eyes set on LTR going into marriage. Growing up in a christian home, this was the way the church outlined life with regards to relationships. My father, though being a strong evangelical christian has always lived life with Red Pill binoculars when dealing with women and because of this, though I was very much beta in understanding women, I was still exposed to certain truths. Not wanting to get into petty details, there was a girl in my life that played a key role in me seeing the truth. I knew and liked her since the age of 12 and when we reconnected in 2014 she was already in a monogamous relationship with the “asshole” archetype. I decided to do the ‘correct’ thing and express my extreme feelings towards her when we began talking again and played the waiting game. Before many of you come to your conclusions, I must note that though I was beta, I had some degree of game and was not a complete emotional tampon. Long story short, I pursued until they finally broke up and was able to have a small level of sexual relations with her until I didn’t feel the connection anymore and simply let it go.
During those 8 months of pursuing, she introduced me to a number of people, one of which would later on show me the path to the Red Pill. At that time I was personally delving into the topic of masculinity and was reading a few sites like the Art of Manliness. Being opened to sites like these gave me some perspective but I wanted to know more. Some time went by and the aforementioned friend and I had a conversation via Facebook on marriage and it occurred to me that his beliefs were very much against the societal norm. From that initial conversation, we were able to cultivate a mutual friendship and he began to introduce me to Red Pill concepts through the use of sites such as TheRationalMale, ReturnOfKings and RooshV.
When faced with statements and opinions that are alien and go against many of your fundamental beliefs, it unsettles you. Your first instinct is to resist and begin to rationalize why your beliefs are what they are and going back into the idea of conditioning, if all you know has been X, Y seems hostile and very incorrect, almost morally perverse. Rollo’s article on unplugging really struck home because it clearly identified the stages I was going through. Looking at things from an objective standpoint, it seemed very rational but when your ego investments are questioned, you still have doubt lingering after every comment. Three months after hesitantly swallowing the Red Pill and observing social dynamics, it became undeniable that the philosophy exposed many truths. I began to notice how females manipulated men with their feigned interest and how they were placed on a pedestal by society. Looking beyond women individually, I began to see how society as a whole altered their way of thinking when a woman was placed as the focus and the privileges they garnered. I could no longer resist the truth.
As of right now, I have been a year completely unplugged and constantly rewiring. The journey has not been easy but life’s greatest gifts are rewarded to those who go through trials and tribulations. However, I also recognize the blessing that has been bestowed on me by being exposed to these truths at the beginning of my adult life; my heart goes out to those in their 30s+ who have been dealt poor hands by life and have now come to accept these truths. But as with being a man, one must adapt to life accordingly and take everything he can.
In continuing to sharpen my masculinity, I felt the spark to contribute to the Manosphere that has empowered me, by highlighting personal observations and giving my thoughts on a eclectic range of topics from the perspective of a young Red Piller who resides in the Caribbean. I do not wish to give a step by step guide on How to Be a Man™, as I am not at such a stage to do so. My place in the Manosphere will simply be to give a perspective of a Red Pill man in the Caribbean – which has not yet been totally taken over by feminism and other new Western thought.