Opposites Attract

“What good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness.” 

― John Steinbeck

From a tender age, I have always heard two trains of thought when it came to dating compatibility. On one end, there is the similarity belief that focuses on being with someone very similar to oneself; on the other is the complementarity belief that says opposites attract and one needs an opposite (of some sort) to have a successful relationship. In a blue pill, egalitarian aspiring world, the former tends to be the pushed belief for men when trying to coerce intimacy from women. Drawing from personal experience, I remember my logic of trying to identify with women as a way to attain intimacy as I believed creating as little friction as possible was the best way to her heart. Suffice it to say, as I got older I realized this belief was the furthest thing from the truth.

Blue Pill men today have been brought up in the belief that everyone is somewhat equal. This ideology has picked up an immense amount of traction over the past 20 odd years as Feminism and other groups have become major influencers in the culture – especially in the education sector. As a result, they now have significant vehicles, such as liberal universities and the film industry to push their idealized beliefs. Now, with young people having been brought up being educated by TV shows and movies, these beliefs take root from a tender age. This egalitarian belief spreads its wings into the dating game and identification game becomes the default. Since everyone is equal and male-female is deemed as ‘social constructs’, men are taught that they can act similarly to women. As such, men now believe that by behaving similarity to women, they will be noticed and appreciated for their efforts. I find myself laughing at this belief because it is clear that the evidence does not support this way of thinking. For every nice guy that changed himself to be more like the girl and was successful (define success), there are thousands of men fucking the girlfriends of guys like these. One can even observe men becoming illuminated as they post stories online bemoaning the fact that their beloved snowflakes are being pumped and dumped by assholes – men who are the complete opposite.

Through simple observation, one can see that nature is inherently unequal and somewhat opposite – this stays true for men and women. Identification game is not an effective or efficient game tactic because it doesn’t take into account that opposites truly do attract. In the eyes of a woman, she is attracted to that which she has not yet experienced. Today, we can see this happening as most girls now have become independent and are pushing to ‘explore’ and ‘experience’ life (the carousel) so she will better ‘understand herself’. Consequently, when one approaches these women with traits and likes similar to hers, she sees that individual as someone who has not yet understood himself or experienced life and thus, is not attractive. Any other man now has become much more attractive in the eyes of said woman because they all hold experiences that she has yet to explore. This is evident in Sheryl Sandberg’s famous quote:

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.”

Quotes like these illicit aggressive responses by crushed blue pill men because they have spent their lives trying to identify and become more like women that they now see their logic has been flawed since its inception. Worse yet, these men may even agree with what Sheryl says as another way identify with the female gender – the rational of blue pill men is appalling.

The idea of making oneself similar to women is highly unattractive to women. In their own theory, they may cry and say they want such men, but in actuality it proves contradictory. Science also debunks this train of thought. Based on studies done, it sheds light on the belief between similarity vs complementarity. All participants in this study were female, so it does provide a great setting. The results shows that complementary partnerships (submissive people with dominant partners and vice versa) reported more satisfaction than did those with similar partners. Another study in 1991 found that women in complementary pairs liked each other more after interacted for 75 minutes than did women in non complementary pairs. These results suggest that complementarity between two partners enhances their attractiveness to each other. In being a dominant opposite, you provide a strong frame for the relationship to grow and for her femininity to flow. Without that masculine presence, hypergamous doubts will set in and she will take it upon herself to fill that void, whether by becoming more masculine or finding a masculine guy. In being a weak submissive, you become a beta orbiter or at best, her ‘best friend’. Similarity in the realm of inter-gender dynamics will never truly be natural or satisfactory, strive to be polarizing in your conquest as it provides the rock and frame they all yearn to live in.

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Covert Warfare

“The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.” – Sun Tzu

Warfare between the sexes has been present for as long as the influence of power in society. Men, being the more physically dominating force has always been overt in battle. As a result, highly masculine countries tend to be more violent than that of feminine countries, and this has been so since the beginning of civilization. Women however, being aware of their physical inferiority evolved over the centuries to become much more cunning and covert in their combats. In pre-historic times where men’s physicality was prioritized in society due to threats of the physical nature (beasts and rival tribes), men strived and stood at the forefront of societal power. However, for women to survive in these conditions they needed to be able use their cunning to ensure the survival of themselves and offspring. This meant that they would use their mental abilities to seduce and procreate with the elite men in their environment, the alpha males. As generations passed and with women learning more ways to conceal their guile, they became even more Machiavellian in their agendas and subsequent actions. This upper hand in the dark arts in addition to the demonization of outward physical violence resulted in not only the equal playing field but a power shift from male to female. Fast forward to today and we can observe the mental gymnastics women put men through without some of them even realizing.

One of the main reasons why the 48 Laws of Power is such a powerful and popular book amongst men, specifically those in competitive industries is due to the fact that most men do not understand covert, mental warfare. This excludes psychopaths, sociopaths and the like who are minute in numbers but powerful in ability. For men, since we have the power and ability to mold the world through the physical, the mental aspects of war (at least throughout the masses) has never been the default. If one looks at these laws objectively, one can observe that they follow the lines of the feminine mindset. Law 3, ‘Conceal Your Intentions” is an example of such a law. Women, through centuries of evolution have become extremely apt at concealing their agenda. This can be seen when women subtly flirt with men just enough to get them interested but not enough to make concrete their intentions. This form of craftiness is used by beautiful women since they already know the power of their appearances. When applied correctly, women are able to gain wealth, emotional support and other perks from men without actually giving in but simply showing promising signs of becoming theirs.

Law 5 is also a popular law used by most women in general, but specifically in social settings and the dating game. Reputation, especially for women is indeed very valuable. For most, reputation can mean the difference between acquiring a high quality man in a LTR or being passed around. I’ve slept with innocent looking women who told me secrets that would never make me even consider wifing them up, but in the eyes of her suitors and even boyfriends, they are as pure as the sacrificial lamb. The importance of reputation is also why women and gossip have always been synonymous; women who gossip understand the power of rumors and doubt. By concocting stories that are inflammatory which can create doubt about a woman’s social standing or sexual history, this can destroy their ability to acquire a quality man or elevate in the social hierarchy. Furthermore, this also shows why women become anxious when in the presence of both a present and former lover. In the mind of the present she is a catch but the ex has experienced things that is most likely buried deep into her memory bank that will not be said, at least not voluntarily.

Law 6 intertwines closely with the aforementioned as women crave attention, even when they state otherwise. This can be observed quickly in most women since they are very solipsistic. Women will never look at the world through abstract, objective eyes but through the lenses of herself and how it affects her. In Mad Men (one of my favorite shows), Don’s first wife, the beautiful Betty Draper is the epitome of a solipsistic woman. She found countless ways to make even the most trivial of things have a connection to her or their relationship. This is how women think. Regardless of what the topic area may be, they will find a way to make a connection and act accordingly. This can also be one of the reasons why they have been so apt at the cunning as without it they would not be acknowledged as a high valued woman. The knowledge of this evolution works wonder from men in the know, but blue pill idealist will forever moan the ‘complexities’ of women.

With the evolution of civilization to that of a more secure and prosperous one, western society has therefore demonized overt warfare. This is seen as physical violence and even contact sports have become softer as each year passes by. One can look at these actions as a way to make the environment much more comfortable for female’s presence. However, even with the removal of the open form of combat there will always be a substitute – the concealed forms, because war can never be fully removed. One way of fighting covertly is through the use of the Red Pill when dealing with women. On the surface it may not seem this way but look a bit deeper and one will realize that being equipped with Red Pill knowledge makes one better at relating with and dominating women – not in a physically abusive way but through the mind. This is why every man should understand the need for covert warfare. The great Sun Tzu said it perfectly, “Know thy self, know thy enemy. A thousand battles, a thousand victories”. As men learn to build their physical bodies as well as their mental abilities, they will become an unstoppable force that can adapt to any situation that is presented. Become that man and your life will become exceptionally greater.

Male Friendships

“Masculinity is about being a man within a group of men. Above all things, masculinity is about what men want from each other”
 ― Jack Donovan

In today’s world, genuine masculine friendships have become sort of a rarity. Film writers and directors have realized this and have been able to tap into this need by portraying characters who were surrounded with other like-minded men to go about their business. Band of Brothers, Ocean’s 11, Goodfellas, Sons of Anarchy and Hangover are all examples of such shows that epitomize brotherhood in their own unique way but evoke the same feeling from male viewers who begin to feel an emptiness in their lives if they aren’t truly part of a gang. In traditional times, boys would grow up within a core group who would have shared similar interests and had each other’s back. This came about naturally as men were pushed both directly and indirectly to make close male bonds with others who they would be able to build with. This was further pushed as boys would be given the room to be boys and through mutual struggles, being part of sports teams and fighting, a close bond would develop. However, as the world became more feminized, genuine friendships began to decrease at drastic rates and this can be seen today where millions of men are shown to have little to no close friends.

Due to the West’s prosperity and security, the life and death need (or lack thereof) to have a group of men at one’s side has also played its part. As a result, men have become much more feminine, untrustworthy and unreliable – traits that other men do not value. Added to this, the stark fatherless rates in society for young boys play a massive part as these boys grow up not knowing how to be men and what men do. Thus, masculine traits are not idealized and they grow up looking at the world from a more feminine perspective. It has also become common for men to openly boast about not having male friends or even speaking of the need for friends with disdain because “no one can be trusted”. This thorough brainwashing has created an environment where men do not see other men as individuals to build with but simply competition in the sexual market place as women are prioritized as #1.

This however is not a new phenomena since competition has always been present, but the priority to place women above a man’s interests has made male-only friendships susceptible to toxicity. Moreover, the infiltration of women into traditionally all-male spheres have also made male bonding a difficult task.  This was seen throughout history but it was permanently sealed when women began to enter into the workplace in mass numbers. The subsequent female control over men’s meet ups also etch into marriage where men now have to ‘ask permission’ from their wives to have meet-ups with other guys. Institutions that were once home to brotherhoods have now opened their gates to women and this inevitably changes the social dynamic. From a place of solitude and openness, these men are now tasked with keeping up appearances since sexual competition is added to the equation subconsciously. As soon as women enter into a male-only dynamic, the goal changes from growing better to making it comfortable enough for their presence – this ultimately defeats the purpose of these institutions. Though societies such as the Freemasons still adhere to the male-only tradition (at least in my country), there are hundreds of other institutions/groups (such as the Military) that have fallen to such a great test.

Having completed the Band of Brothers series, it was blatant how at ease and comfortable these men were among themselves while in the face of death. These men trained and fought together so much that their friendships would lead them to self-sacrifice for their brothers in arms. These are the types of friendships that have now become unimaginable since men won’t even consider putting themselves in an uncomfortable position for the sake of the other’s comfort/benefit. Having spoken to older men who didn’t see the need for friendships earlier in their lives, they have all regretted not taking the opportunity to genuinely form relationships with other men. They all stated that they have very little chance now to grieve, talk, console and the like with others since these are not genuinely possible with women. Consequently, these men become depressed and unhappy as they are not able to experience being part of a strong brotherhood. This especially affects veterans who went to war and came back home only to experience the world completely different. These guys tend to go into depression and become suicidal if they aren’t properly rehabilitated and meshed into civilized society. But, what gets them to the stage of contentment and peace? Having connected with other veterans who understand and experienced what they experienced. All the emotions and stories that they can’t speak to their wives, girlfriends and associates about would all be buried in their psyche if not for their fellow colleagues.

Jack Donovan’s “Way of Men” is an excellent resource into the benefits of forming a tribe of men to grow with. This group will help build connections that lasts as long or longer than marriage since male friendship is felt more deeply and strongly than female’s. Furthermore, these groups create a level of competition that is needed to truly evolve and become actualized. They push men to hold a standard that needs to be maintained for the sake of the group. It forms a togetherness that refines the masculinity of each member and facilitates in the expansion of their physical dominance, mental dominance and the like. Without the pressure or competition, these men become dull and easily defeated.

The need for bonding and purpose runs through the veins of all men but in the past few decades it has been wrongly channelled toward female companionship which doesn’t yield comparable benefits. Forming genuine bonds will not only make life much more exciting, it will provide opportunities for mutual growth and an edge that cannot be substituted by another.

Dominance and Leadership: Culture

“An aura of dominance creates a magnetic bubble; leadership provides the direction in which that bubble travels” – Newly Sharpened

Men’s dominance and leadership throughout history has always been the driving force of a functional and thriving society. Leaders of men were championed and admired since it projected the ideal masculine experience and as a result, children looked up to them in admiration and fellow men showed immense respect. As an extension of this, their dominance and productivity were seen by women as highly attractive and arousing. This social standing and dominance forced women to try everything in their will to make themselves valuable enough to become  potential wives to these men. Furthermore, they desired big families since reproducing with dominant males meant strong, competitive genes would be passed on.

However, what happens when male dominance and leadership becomes demonized by a culture? the culture begins to destroy itself whilst its women subconsciously hope for balance to be restored. The duality of nature, especially masculine and feminine energy has always been needed for a society to fully actualize its potential. By emasculating a country’s men, a society voluntarily and/or involuntarily invites foreign men from more dominant cultures to restore this balance. A quick look at the immigrant welcoming countries shows the result of a female run society – as Chateau rightfully states, “men invade, women invite”. Since the welcoming of these foreigners, Germany and Sweden have reported rape epidemics, spike in crime rates and fear amongst citizens. The irony in all of this are the reports from multiple women calling for men to protect them. The same women who demonized violence and ‘male culture’ are now the ones demonizing men for not being strong or aggressive enough, alas, damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Female nature in an environment of violence and hostility tend to look towards their men to become more of the masculine archetype that is needed to secure survival for themselves and their family. However, when society becomes prosperous, and violence becomes much more obscure and covert, female nature thrives. At this point, a woman’s Machiavellian make up will begin to find ways in which to gain the most out of this prosperity. The men that they leaned on to secure their survival becomes the same individuals that they attempt to change, to become more subservient and sensitive. This poses as an internal quandary for most beta men because they believe by identifying with them, they become more attractive. This however is a grave mistake; when a female attempts to alter your habits, ideologies and thought processes, this in itself is a shit test. On a societal level, European men have failed this shit test by giving into the demands of Feminists and other movements that attack men in order to ‘empower’ themselves. They have taken the position of being lead rather than leading.

Nevertheless, as true to female nature, when they do succeed in getting what they want, they then search for what they now don’t have. In this context, masculinity becomes what they yearn for as society fails to offer them men that they can respect and therefore love. Looking into the birth rate most national couples have in these societies show that the women have little to no interest in passing on the couple’s genes. There are many factors that affect this but there can be a strong case that when a society becomes much more feminized, women are not inclined to make much children, if any at all. If this state remains, as is the case with many European countries, these women vote for policies that ensure the invitation of more alpha males into their lands under the guise of a humanitarian effort. Initially, this may be genuine but as these foreign men show themselves to be a sharp contrast to that of national beta males, they begin to become more attracted to them.

Slowly, as this trend continues, these foreign men become the dominant species in the land and they become the leaders of the society through attaining public (governmental and community) and private (business) positions of power. A look through the history books will show that this trend is not particularly new. The book ‘The Fate of Empires’ (I advise my readers to read this books in light of world events) details the trends through history that preceded the decline and subsequent fall of great empires. Interestingly enough: an influx of foreigners, a welfare state, the loss of a sense of duty and deferring political positions and power to women were all trends that followed the destruction of these empires. However, this all comes about through the softening of men in the nation as they have enjoyed prosperity for an extended period of time. They become more dominant intellectually but not physically; feminine but not masculine; following but not leading.

Unfortunately, I believe this decline is at a stage where enjoying seems much more beneficial than undertaking the responsibility of righting society’s wrongs. We have entered a time where transgenderism, homosexuality and nihilism are celebrated and deemed as bravery we should all admire. True male virtues are branded as evil and everything that goes against the male function and nature are not progressive enough to hold clout in the public eye. Change will only come when war breaks out and men are forced to pick up their weapons and embrace their primal, dominant nature that has brought society this far.