Opposites Attract

“What good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness.” 

― John Steinbeck

From a tender age, I have always heard two trains of thought when it came to dating compatibility. On one end, there is the similarity belief that focuses on being with someone very similar to oneself; on the other is the complementarity belief that says opposites attract and one needs an opposite (of some sort) to have a successful relationship. In a blue pill, egalitarian aspiring world, the former tends to be the pushed belief for men when trying to coerce intimacy from women. Drawing from personal experience, I remember my logic of trying to identify with women as a way to attain intimacy as I believed creating as little friction as possible was the best way to her heart. Suffice it to say, as I got older I realized this belief was the furthest thing from the truth.

Blue Pill men today have been brought up in the belief that everyone is somewhat equal. This ideology has picked up an immense amount of traction over the past 20 odd years as Feminism and other groups have become major influencers in the culture – especially in the education sector. As a result, they now have significant vehicles, such as liberal universities and the film industry to push their idealized beliefs. Now, with young people having been brought up being educated by TV shows and movies, these beliefs take root from a tender age. This egalitarian belief spreads its wings into the dating game and identification game becomes the default. Since everyone is equal and male-female is deemed as ‘social constructs’, men are taught that they can act similarly to women. As such, men now believe that by behaving similarity to women, they will be noticed and appreciated for their efforts. I find myself laughing at this belief because it is clear that the evidence does not support this way of thinking. For every nice guy that changed himself to be more like the girl and was successful (define success), there are thousands of men fucking the girlfriends of guys like these. One can even observe men becoming illuminated as they post stories online bemoaning the fact that their beloved snowflakes are being pumped and dumped by assholes – men who are the complete opposite.

Through simple observation, one can see that nature is inherently unequal and somewhat opposite – this stays true for men and women. Identification game is not an effective or efficient game tactic because it doesn’t take into account that opposites truly do attract. In the eyes of a woman, she is attracted to that which she has not yet experienced. Today, we can see this happening as most girls now have become independent and are pushing to ‘explore’ and ‘experience’ life (the carousel) so she will better ‘understand herself’. Consequently, when one approaches these women with traits and likes similar to hers, she sees that individual as someone who has not yet understood himself or experienced life and thus, is not attractive. Any other man now has become much more attractive in the eyes of said woman because they all hold experiences that she has yet to explore. This is evident in Sheryl Sandberg’s famous quote:

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.”

Quotes like these illicit aggressive responses by crushed blue pill men because they have spent their lives trying to identify and become more like women that they now see their logic has been flawed since its inception. Worse yet, these men may even agree with what Sheryl says as another way identify with the female gender – the rational of blue pill men is appalling.

The idea of making oneself similar to women is highly unattractive to women. In their own theory, they may cry and say they want such men, but in actuality it proves contradictory. Science also debunks this train of thought. Based on studies done, it sheds light on the belief between similarity vs complementarity. All participants in this study were female, so it does provide a great setting. The results shows that complementary partnerships (submissive people with dominant partners and vice versa) reported more satisfaction than did those with similar partners. Another study in 1991 found that women in complementary pairs liked each other more after interacted for 75 minutes than did women in non complementary pairs. These results suggest that complementarity between two partners enhances their attractiveness to each other. In being a dominant opposite, you provide a strong frame for the relationship to grow and for her femininity to flow. Without that masculine presence, hypergamous doubts will set in and she will take it upon herself to fill that void, whether by becoming more masculine or finding a masculine guy. In being a weak submissive, you become a beta orbiter or at best, her ‘best friend’. Similarity in the realm of inter-gender dynamics will never truly be natural or satisfactory, strive to be polarizing in your conquest as it provides the rock and frame they all yearn to live in.

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The Energies (Short Story)

In growing as a young writer, I’ve decided to refine my craft through the use of different forms of writing. As such,  I will also be releasing short stories on the 2nd and 4th Fridays of every month. Enjoy.


The Thursday night is quiet, not unusual as the clock only struck 6pm. On the prowl you notice women in their short skirts looking for a mistake to add to their collection, men watching sports on TV while consuming an unhealthy amount of beer and the background music is just loud enough to get you through the awkward silences but not loud enough to make communication awkward. In the darkened corners of the room are the men running scripts on unsuspecting young girls no older than 25. With each giggle the men are validated and continues their methodical series of questions, push-pull, amused mastery techniques. In the more lit areas near the sports spectators are the men with their girlfriends, laughing at their stale jokes just to get by while their eyes occasionally wander to the younger, more beautiful women in the clothes of fornicators. One particular man is all alone, though he has had many invitations to be occupied but none met his standard. He’s calm but his aura is one of dominance, drawing every fresh poon nearby. He sips his whisky cocktail, thinking that tonight would not give him the release he’s yearning for. In the corner of his eyes however, the door opens slowly and he becomes aware of a delicate specimen.

She enters the room with a meek confidence that draws men’s eyes in her vicinity. Not uncommon to her, she reacts with a bright smile that doesn’t do too much but is very inviting. Moments pass and she figures out her path – slowly strutting her petite body to the bar. She glimpses at the man, analyzing his exterior which screamed manly; the leather jacket, dark denim jeans and tall boots that only a powerful man can feel comfortable in. The bartender quickly notices her waiting and gets her drink order. In the distance, the man looks at her, pondering for another moment until he finally decides to make his move. He walks over with slowly, with an aura of purpose. He introduces himself with a touch on her elbows, notifying her of his intent and asks her name. She turns to him with a calm but surprised expression as though this has never happened to her before. As she tries to read him, his gaze pierces through her which doesn’t scare but reveals the type of man he is. Unconsciously, her hands roam, touching her hair and giving off a shy smile while he replies with a slight smirk that oozes confidence. She introduces herself, the man instantly noticing the tone of her voice elevating higher as she continues to speak, giving away her nervousness. His years of gaming women made this an easy task; he chats her up a bit, making her giggle without talking much and leaving an air of mystery to cloak himself. Without a missed beat, he calmly goes to her ear and whispers something that makes her teeth and lips come together. He then holds her hand, leading her outdoors while those onlookers’ eyes become fixated at what just transpired.

While leaving the room, her mind races as she thinks of something to ask, something to say, but in his presence she simply enjoys the bubble he has created. As they both get outdoors, he reaches into his pockets for a cigarette, lights it and inhales deeply while gazing onto the horizon. The orange sunset reminds him of the African jungle where predators roam in search of food before sundown. He smirks at the thought, with images of fornication flashing in his mind while the tobacco provides him with a mild high. She looks at him with an expression of wanting but doesn’t follow through in saying what is on her mind. Exhaling the thick fog of smoke from his lungs, he turns to her and wraps his arm around her waist, making concrete his intentions for the night. Though she isn’t used to this, the subtle dominance he exercises over her through his mannerisms immediately puts her at ease, almost as if she knew him her entire life. He looks down into her radiating eyes, knowing this is what he wants, and goes in for the kiss. She hesitates for just a moment but finally gives in to her newfound vice, passing her hand on his stomach letting him know she wants more. He pulls back slowly and looks back at her but she’s not able to sustain eye contact. He looks to his watch, pensively considers his options for an extended second. Carrying her by the waist, he leads her to the car while she rests her head on his broad shoulders. A few moments of driving and he stops at the top of a secluded precipice. He exits the vehicle, leans on the front of his car overlooking the final moments of the beautiful sunset while he lits another cigarette. She comes out of the car and walks to him, but this time not with the meek confidence of earlier but with an attitude that screams sensuality and femininity. The scent of tobacco draws her in and she realizes that as the sun goes down for the day, so to will her guard.

Covert Warfare

“The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.” – Sun Tzu

Warfare between the sexes has been present for as long as the influence of power in society. Men, being the more physically dominating force has always been overt in battle. As a result, highly masculine countries tend to be more violent than that of feminine countries, and this has been so since the beginning of civilization. Women however, being aware of their physical inferiority evolved over the centuries to become much more cunning and covert in their combats. In pre-historic times where men’s physicality was prioritized in society due to threats of the physical nature (beasts and rival tribes), men strived and stood at the forefront of societal power. However, for women to survive in these conditions they needed to be able use their cunning to ensure the survival of themselves and offspring. This meant that they would use their mental abilities to seduce and procreate with the elite men in their environment, the alpha males. As generations passed and with women learning more ways to conceal their guile, they became even more Machiavellian in their agendas and subsequent actions. This upper hand in the dark arts in addition to the demonization of outward physical violence resulted in not only the equal playing field but a power shift from male to female. Fast forward to today and we can observe the mental gymnastics women put men through without some of them even realizing.

One of the main reasons why the 48 Laws of Power is such a powerful and popular book amongst men, specifically those in competitive industries is due to the fact that most men do not understand covert, mental warfare. This excludes psychopaths, sociopaths and the like who are minute in numbers but powerful in ability. For men, since we have the power and ability to mold the world through the physical, the mental aspects of war (at least throughout the masses) has never been the default. If one looks at these laws objectively, one can observe that they follow the lines of the feminine mindset. Law 3, ‘Conceal Your Intentions” is an example of such a law. Women, through centuries of evolution have become extremely apt at concealing their agenda. This can be seen when women subtly flirt with men just enough to get them interested but not enough to make concrete their intentions. This form of craftiness is used by beautiful women since they already know the power of their appearances. When applied correctly, women are able to gain wealth, emotional support and other perks from men without actually giving in but simply showing promising signs of becoming theirs.

Law 5 is also a popular law used by most women in general, but specifically in social settings and the dating game. Reputation, especially for women is indeed very valuable. For most, reputation can mean the difference between acquiring a high quality man in a LTR or being passed around. I’ve slept with innocent looking women who told me secrets that would never make me even consider wifing them up, but in the eyes of her suitors and even boyfriends, they are as pure as the sacrificial lamb. The importance of reputation is also why women and gossip have always been synonymous; women who gossip understand the power of rumors and doubt. By concocting stories that are inflammatory which can create doubt about a woman’s social standing or sexual history, this can destroy their ability to acquire a quality man or elevate in the social hierarchy. Furthermore, this also shows why women become anxious when in the presence of both a present and former lover. In the mind of the present she is a catch but the ex has experienced things that is most likely buried deep into her memory bank that will not be said, at least not voluntarily.

Law 6 intertwines closely with the aforementioned as women crave attention, even when they state otherwise. This can be observed quickly in most women since they are very solipsistic. Women will never look at the world through abstract, objective eyes but through the lenses of herself and how it affects her. In Mad Men (one of my favorite shows), Don’s first wife, the beautiful Betty Draper is the epitome of a solipsistic woman. She found countless ways to make even the most trivial of things have a connection to her or their relationship. This is how women think. Regardless of what the topic area may be, they will find a way to make a connection and act accordingly. This can also be one of the reasons why they have been so apt at the cunning as without it they would not be acknowledged as a high valued woman. The knowledge of this evolution works wonder from men in the know, but blue pill idealist will forever moan the ‘complexities’ of women.

With the evolution of civilization to that of a more secure and prosperous one, western society has therefore demonized overt warfare. This is seen as physical violence and even contact sports have become softer as each year passes by. One can look at these actions as a way to make the environment much more comfortable for female’s presence. However, even with the removal of the open form of combat there will always be a substitute – the concealed forms, because war can never be fully removed. One way of fighting covertly is through the use of the Red Pill when dealing with women. On the surface it may not seem this way but look a bit deeper and one will realize that being equipped with Red Pill knowledge makes one better at relating with and dominating women – not in a physically abusive way but through the mind. This is why every man should understand the need for covert warfare. The great Sun Tzu said it perfectly, “Know thy self, know thy enemy. A thousand battles, a thousand victories”. As men learn to build their physical bodies as well as their mental abilities, they will become an unstoppable force that can adapt to any situation that is presented. Become that man and your life will become exceptionally greater.

Emotions

“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
― Oscar Wilde

As men grow in their pursuits of becoming the best versions of themselves, they are forced to alter many of their beliefs and routines. This is especially relevant when it comes to bedding high quality women as the stakes become higher and more adjustments need to be made. Based on my experiences and conversations with other young men, there is a misconception that emotions are a sign of weakness, and as men we should not tap into that space frequently. However, a look at  great men throughout history as well as men who are truly great with women, will tell you that emotions does have its place in a man’s life, especially in game. If a man sticks strictly rational and logical in his pursuits of women, this becomes a crutch to his evolution because women are inherently emotional creatures. What does this mean? It means that emotions are to be embraced and used as a tool, just like everything else in the Red Pill praxeology to have a more successful life.

Im not advocating for men to become more emotional but rather to use emotions in a way that  helps create more successful relationships. Personally, I truly believe men are to be the rock of any relationship – may it be a one night stand or LTR. However, as your game becomes more refined, you begin to understand that emotions are a crucial part of acquiring and maintaining great relations with women. As men, we do not have the luxury of fully enjoying the thrills of love as women do. They are able to wholeheartedly lose themselves in these emotions while we are left having to create those moments. By remaining completely stoic in your pursuits of wanting to bed women, the passions of love/lust are not explored and the highs and lows women yearn for are not satiated. This pushes them to search for someone who will satisfy these wants and thus, feelings toward you become even more fleeting.

Women yearn after the emotional thrills a man can give her. As soon as she experiences it, she becomes addicted to these feelings and will always look for her fix. Take for example alpha men who became beta during the course of a relationship. One of the main reasons why they become this way is due to them not being able to have the emotional impact they had prior and as stated, this drives a woman toward men who can give her these feelings. These emotions need not be happy emotions, but it can also be feelings of anger, jealously (dread) and even hate. This is why hate-sex/make-up sex is usually so passionate; the emotional high a woman experiences surpasses the banal alterations of her emotions on a daily basis.

Fundamentally, this is one of the key facets that separate alphas from betas. Alphas are able to unlock and unleash an emotional state, either high or low that makes him the man she craves. Betas, by being supplicant sabotage themselves by playing nice because it gives no high or low, but rather platitudinous routine. From a meta standpoint, this cannot be any more truer. Women have been given untold luxury our ancestors never dreamt imaginable yet, instead of building off these luxuries by having a stable life, in their prime years they ride the carousel to find themselves. As Red Pill aware men we understand the dynamic at work – Alpha Fucks/Beta Bux – however, you can also observe that the primary elevates her emotional state whilst the latter levels it.

There is an inherent want from women to explore their heightened emotional senses where they can simply let go and be completely carried away in the moment. Emotions for this matter, becomes the essential tool needed to get her to this state. Make her feel love, hate, jealously, envy and the like and she will always come back for more. For a woman, a heightened state of emotional activity whether it be positive or negative will always trump numbing expectancy; as soon as you understand this, women’s feelings toward you will increase exponentially. As the sentiment goes, it is much better to be loved or hated by a woman than it is for her to feel indifferent toward you – use emotions well and you will always be the man she comes to for her fix.

Dominance and Leadership: Relationships

“…Masculinity pertains to male dominance as femininity pertains to female subordination.” – Sheila Jeffreys

Recently I was conversing with a girl in my life when she mentioned her satisfaction with the dynamic we hold in our relationship. She referred to the dynamic that assumes me as the leader and herself, the follower. For most men, this dynamic is one that does not exist in their favor since women of this generation are brought up being taught that men are nothing without them and they need to control men’s interests. This is particularly prevalent because men have also been indoctrinated in the belief that they should just be grateful to have women in their lives. However, these teachings of a matriarchal system goes against the nature of female sexual arousal. Power and superiority, two of the essential traits that trigger arousal in a woman, is needed for a relationship to be become and remain successful. By men accepting a secondary role, they covertly imply that their women are superior and this implication diminishes any emotion (other than contempt) very quickly. This creates a social and sexual dynamic where men are required to constantly aim for approval or else they are not considered ‘real men’. They are advised to follow what they are told (“I’d have to ask my wife/girlfriend if I can…”) and women’s wants are prioritized above their individual interests.

Historically, men have been the leaders in society and by extension, relationships and the family unit. Though this entailed making all major decisions – both easy and difficult – as well as always being ‘on’, men enjoyed and thrived in this position. Because men are wired to be natural leaders and problem solvers, this position typically allowed them to actualize their potential which helped both the family and society at large. In a patriarchy, women expect their men to be strong, decisive and masculine because they understand that these traits ultimately make their lives more fulfilling than it is. Only these women understand that by assuming the responsibility of being the assistant in the relationship that they get more out of life. The truth is, a woman deeply craves a dominant leader in her life. However, because of the current social standing and women’s adeptness for the cunning, if men are subservient, women will not vocalize their want for a powerful man. They may continue to be in a relationship but it is usually for the ego strokes they will receive by controlling the dynamic and consequently, controlling the resources men would be able to provide that they cannot acquire on their own.

In being a submissive provider, a woman may be attracted to the idea of becoming the primary individual in a relationship, but she will never be aroused or respect it. In matters of love, arousal trumps attraction and respect does the same with love. One of the disservices men have and continue to face today is the notion that they are able to experience love in the same way a woman does. Understand this – only a woman can experience the emotional entirety of love in a way that does not make her unattractive. It is men who, regardless of emotion, must be the immovable foundation in this dynamic. This means that you don’t give yourself to fleeting feelings of love but you guide that feeling in her to make the relationship successful. Women will die believing they want a man that gives his all to her, but as soon as this wish is granted, she will feed off those vulnerabilities until there is nothing left to offer her. If you listen to any woman talk about an alpha male she is in love with, you will hear similar themes of the guy not being open with her and not changing for her. Question is, why do they not leave these relationships? It is simple, the guy is leading her into a plethora of emotions that only he can weather. As soon as he gives in and does what she says (following), she loses interest because she is in the unnatural position of leading.

From the outside looking in, the allure of leading may push a woman to want it but as soon as she is in the eye of the storm, she wishes for her Superman to rescue her. Only until you realize and actualize your masculine, dominant nature will you be able to attract, keep and satisfy the women in your life.