When the transition from a blue pill mindset to the red pill occurs, men’s views on inter-gender dynamic shifts from one of illusion to actuality. With the knowledge acquired about women’s dual sexual nature, men now grasp the difference between what it is to be attractive and what it is to be arousing. This can be easily explained in the much understood Alpha Fucks/Beta Bux dichotomy. In this particular context, attraction encapsulates the qualities that are beneficial to women in the long term as a provider. Men who satisfy the beta bux side of the equation typically have the ability to provide for a family, ensure stability (both emotional and financial), has an overinflated level of respect for women and their imperative, understanding and are generally nice guys. Counter to this are those men who evoke feelings of detachment and instability; they are looked at as the fleeting thrills a woman enjoys before she settles down with the attractive man. They are typically dominant, good looking (though not always), narcissistic and utilizes the dark arts in their favor. A man can be both attractive and arousing, however, most women tend to have a binary perspective on sexual market players and will thus categorize men accordingly. This is especially relevant in countries where Hypergamy is open and even embraced in the culture – similar to that of the U.S. and European countries.
Following a woman’s initial introduction and analysis of a man, she quickly categories him into either two of the aforementioned groups which would alter her behavior for the rest of the relationship. “I’d never sleep with a guy on the first date if he is relationship material”, is a quote that is spewed by many women when it comes to dealing with those they find attractive or arousing. I have heard beautiful women say this to me in conversation and it is not limited to a specific appearance but rather the general female population. Both attractive and unattractive, women share this belief because they exist within a society that has accepted their dual nature while supplying men to satisfy both biological needs. In a properly functioning society where women are held accountable for their actions and are chastised for prioritizing their feral nature, this belief would not be shared, at least not openly. Though Islamic countries do not experience most of the joys Westerners do, when it comes to the sexual dynamic they have not and will not allow open hypergamy to take its place on a societal level. As a result, women are forced to live in the boxes men create for them and any alterations could mean fatal punishments.
In Western culture, one of their main issues men face because of feminine-primary brainwashing, is the belief that what makes a man attractive also makes him arousing. This is also an ideology shared amongst most blue pill men who believe in what women say they are aroused by. The problem with asking women this question is that the man she frames in her mind is a default alpha who she wishes to tame. The traits that she calls out are those she wishes the arousing man can also possess to satisfy her alpha/beta desires which would benefit her both short and long term. This mindset, ’the alpha with a side of beta’ is truly what women desire to have in a man but it fails at its inception because an alpha male cannot also be a beta male, especially in the mind of a woman. Men who attempt to satisfy by playing both sides of the coin are bound to fail because for each beta trait that is shown, authenticity is questioned until the man reaches a point where he is deemed as an inauthentic alpha male, or simply a beta male. In most women’s eyes, an alpha is born not created, and if they find out they are being deceived, your existence in their eyes will quickly disappear. The toil and hard work of becoming a more dominant man should not be advertised because an alpha cannot be created. If you became an alpha through hard work, you are inauthentic in her eyes and she will show contempt to you for trying to cheat the sexual marketplace. This is why there is no ‘alpha with a side of beta’, because in being fluid, she sees you as not being who you truly are and she will not dare entertain the thought of being with a man who is not genuine.
Arousal and attraction in the eyes of a woman is a battle between her primal nature and that of the mind. Primal nature will always extend towards an arousing man but a smart woman will choose an attractive man as to ensure her long-term well being. A cunning woman however, will mingle amongst those arousing until her expiry date when an attractive man becomes the priority.