Attraction and Arousal

When the transition from a blue pill mindset to the red pill occurs, men’s views on inter-gender dynamic shifts from one of illusion to actuality. With the knowledge acquired about women’s dual sexual nature, men now grasp the difference between what it is to be attractive and what it is to be arousing. This can be easily explained in the much understood Alpha Fucks/Beta Bux dichotomy. In this particular context, attraction encapsulates the qualities that are beneficial to women in the long term as a provider. Men who satisfy the beta bux side of the equation typically have the ability to provide for a family, ensure stability (both emotional and financial), has an overinflated level of respect for women and their imperative, understanding and are generally nice guys. Counter to this are those men who evoke feelings of detachment and instability; they are looked at as the fleeting thrills a woman enjoys before she settles down with the attractive man. They are typically dominant, good looking (though not always), narcissistic and utilizes the dark arts in their favor. A man can be both attractive and arousing, however, most women tend to have a binary perspective on sexual market players and will thus categorize men accordingly. This is especially relevant in countries where Hypergamy is open and even embraced in the culture – similar to that of the U.S. and European countries.

Following a woman’s initial introduction and analysis of a man, she quickly categories him into  either two of the aforementioned groups which would alter her behavior for the rest of the relationship. “I’d never sleep with a guy on the first date if he is relationship material”, is a quote that is spewed by many women when it comes to dealing with those they find attractive or arousing. I have heard beautiful women say this to me in conversation and it is not limited to a specific appearance but rather the general female population. Both attractive and unattractive, women share this belief because they exist within a society that has accepted their dual nature while supplying men to satisfy both biological needs. In a properly functioning society where women are held accountable for their actions and are chastised for prioritizing their feral nature, this belief would not be shared, at least not openly. Though Islamic countries do not experience most of the joys Westerners do, when it comes to the sexual dynamic they have not and will not allow open hypergamy to take its place on a societal level. As a result, women are forced to live in the boxes men create for them and any alterations could mean fatal punishments.

In Western culture, one of their main issues men face because of feminine-primary brainwashing, is the belief that what makes a man attractive also makes him arousing. This is  also an ideology shared amongst most blue pill men who believe in what women say they are aroused by. The problem with asking women this question is that the man she frames in her mind is a default alpha who she wishes to tame. The traits that she calls out are those she wishes the arousing man can also possess to satisfy her alpha/beta desires which would benefit her both short and long term. This mindset, ’the alpha with a side of beta’ is truly what women desire to have in a man but it fails at its inception because an alpha male cannot also be a beta male, especially in the mind of a woman. Men who attempt to satisfy by playing both sides of the coin are bound to fail because for each beta trait that is shown, authenticity is questioned until the man reaches a point where he is deemed as an inauthentic alpha male, or simply a beta male. In most women’s eyes, an alpha is born not created, and if they find out they are being deceived, your existence in their eyes will quickly disappear. The toil and hard work of becoming a more dominant man should not be advertised because an alpha cannot be created. If you became an alpha through hard work, you are inauthentic in her eyes and she will show contempt to you for trying to cheat the sexual marketplace. This is why there is no ‘alpha with a side of beta’, because in being fluid, she sees you as not being who you truly are and she will not dare entertain the thought of being with a man who is not genuine.

Arousal and attraction in the eyes of a woman is a battle between her primal nature and that of the mind. Primal nature will always extend towards an arousing man but a smart woman will choose an attractive man as to ensure her long-term well being. A cunning woman however, will mingle amongst those arousing until her expiry date when an attractive man becomes the priority.

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Dominance and Leadership: Relationships

“…Masculinity pertains to male dominance as femininity pertains to female subordination.” – Sheila Jeffreys

Recently I was conversing with a girl in my life when she mentioned her satisfaction with the dynamic we hold in our relationship. She referred to the dynamic that assumes me as the leader and herself, the follower. For most men, this dynamic is one that does not exist in their favor since women of this generation are brought up being taught that men are nothing without them and they need to control men’s interests. This is particularly prevalent because men have also been indoctrinated in the belief that they should just be grateful to have women in their lives. However, these teachings of a matriarchal system goes against the nature of female sexual arousal. Power and superiority, two of the essential traits that trigger arousal in a woman, is needed for a relationship to be become and remain successful. By men accepting a secondary role, they covertly imply that their women are superior and this implication diminishes any emotion (other than contempt) very quickly. This creates a social and sexual dynamic where men are required to constantly aim for approval or else they are not considered ‘real men’. They are advised to follow what they are told (“I’d have to ask my wife/girlfriend if I can…”) and women’s wants are prioritized above their individual interests.

Historically, men have been the leaders in society and by extension, relationships and the family unit. Though this entailed making all major decisions – both easy and difficult – as well as always being ‘on’, men enjoyed and thrived in this position. Because men are wired to be natural leaders and problem solvers, this position typically allowed them to actualize their potential which helped both the family and society at large. In a patriarchy, women expect their men to be strong, decisive and masculine because they understand that these traits ultimately make their lives more fulfilling than it is. Only these women understand that by assuming the responsibility of being the assistant in the relationship that they get more out of life. The truth is, a woman deeply craves a dominant leader in her life. However, because of the current social standing and women’s adeptness for the cunning, if men are subservient, women will not vocalize their want for a powerful man. They may continue to be in a relationship but it is usually for the ego strokes they will receive by controlling the dynamic and consequently, controlling the resources men would be able to provide that they cannot acquire on their own.

In being a submissive provider, a woman may be attracted to the idea of becoming the primary individual in a relationship, but she will never be aroused or respect it. In matters of love, arousal trumps attraction and respect does the same with love. One of the disservices men have and continue to face today is the notion that they are able to experience love in the same way a woman does. Understand this – only a woman can experience the emotional entirety of love in a way that does not make her unattractive. It is men who, regardless of emotion, must be the immovable foundation in this dynamic. This means that you don’t give yourself to fleeting feelings of love but you guide that feeling in her to make the relationship successful. Women will die believing they want a man that gives his all to her, but as soon as this wish is granted, she will feed off those vulnerabilities until there is nothing left to offer her. If you listen to any woman talk about an alpha male she is in love with, you will hear similar themes of the guy not being open with her and not changing for her. Question is, why do they not leave these relationships? It is simple, the guy is leading her into a plethora of emotions that only he can weather. As soon as he gives in and does what she says (following), she loses interest because she is in the unnatural position of leading.

From the outside looking in, the allure of leading may push a woman to want it but as soon as she is in the eye of the storm, she wishes for her Superman to rescue her. Only until you realize and actualize your masculine, dominant nature will you be able to attract, keep and satisfy the women in your life.

Dominance and Leadership: Culture

“An aura of dominance creates a magnetic bubble; leadership provides the direction in which that bubble travels” – Newly Sharpened

Men’s dominance and leadership throughout history has always been the driving force of a functional and thriving society. Leaders of men were championed and admired since it projected the ideal masculine experience and as a result, children looked up to them in admiration and fellow men showed immense respect. As an extension of this, their dominance and productivity were seen by women as highly attractive and arousing. This social standing and dominance forced women to try everything in their will to make themselves valuable enough to become  potential wives to these men. Furthermore, they desired big families since reproducing with dominant males meant strong, competitive genes would be passed on.

However, what happens when male dominance and leadership becomes demonized by a culture? the culture begins to destroy itself whilst its women subconsciously hope for balance to be restored. The duality of nature, especially masculine and feminine energy has always been needed for a society to fully actualize its potential. By emasculating a country’s men, a society voluntarily and/or involuntarily invites foreign men from more dominant cultures to restore this balance. A quick look at the immigrant welcoming countries shows the result of a female run society – as Chateau rightfully states, “men invade, women invite”. Since the welcoming of these foreigners, Germany and Sweden have reported rape epidemics, spike in crime rates and fear amongst citizens. The irony in all of this are the reports from multiple women calling for men to protect them. The same women who demonized violence and ‘male culture’ are now the ones demonizing men for not being strong or aggressive enough, alas, damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Female nature in an environment of violence and hostility tend to look towards their men to become more of the masculine archetype that is needed to secure survival for themselves and their family. However, when society becomes prosperous, and violence becomes much more obscure and covert, female nature thrives. At this point, a woman’s Machiavellian make up will begin to find ways in which to gain the most out of this prosperity. The men that they leaned on to secure their survival becomes the same individuals that they attempt to change, to become more subservient and sensitive. This poses as an internal quandary for most beta men because they believe by identifying with them, they become more attractive. This however is a grave mistake; when a female attempts to alter your habits, ideologies and thought processes, this in itself is a shit test. On a societal level, European men have failed this shit test by giving into the demands of Feminists and other movements that attack men in order to ‘empower’ themselves. They have taken the position of being lead rather than leading.

Nevertheless, as true to female nature, when they do succeed in getting what they want, they then search for what they now don’t have. In this context, masculinity becomes what they yearn for as society fails to offer them men that they can respect and therefore love. Looking into the birth rate most national couples have in these societies show that the women have little to no interest in passing on the couple’s genes. There are many factors that affect this but there can be a strong case that when a society becomes much more feminized, women are not inclined to make much children, if any at all. If this state remains, as is the case with many European countries, these women vote for policies that ensure the invitation of more alpha males into their lands under the guise of a humanitarian effort. Initially, this may be genuine but as these foreign men show themselves to be a sharp contrast to that of national beta males, they begin to become more attracted to them.

Slowly, as this trend continues, these foreign men become the dominant species in the land and they become the leaders of the society through attaining public (governmental and community) and private (business) positions of power. A look through the history books will show that this trend is not particularly new. The book ‘The Fate of Empires’ (I advise my readers to read this books in light of world events) details the trends through history that preceded the decline and subsequent fall of great empires. Interestingly enough: an influx of foreigners, a welfare state, the loss of a sense of duty and deferring political positions and power to women were all trends that followed the destruction of these empires. However, this all comes about through the softening of men in the nation as they have enjoyed prosperity for an extended period of time. They become more dominant intellectually but not physically; feminine but not masculine; following but not leading.

Unfortunately, I believe this decline is at a stage where enjoying seems much more beneficial than undertaking the responsibility of righting society’s wrongs. We have entered a time where transgenderism, homosexuality and nihilism are celebrated and deemed as bravery we should all admire. True male virtues are branded as evil and everything that goes against the male function and nature are not progressive enough to hold clout in the public eye. Change will only come when war breaks out and men are forced to pick up their weapons and embrace their primal, dominant nature that has brought society this far.

Female’s Sexuality & Marriage

In the early 1900s, both love and sex saw a massive cultural change in Russia. With the emergence of Communism at the time, they made major strides toward the idea of ‘free love’, free abortions and no-fault easy divorce in the state. This change brought about mass impregnation of women in the country without the commitment of a provider (men). This period actually coined the now used term, ‘alpha widow’ we in the Manosphere use frequently. When these women had become impregnated by these noncommittal men, the State assumed responsibility for taking care of these children and the mother. As this trend continued for years, institutions and facilities such as State daycares began filling up at unsustainable rates and this saw a steep decline in the quality of these facilities. As it became apparent that this system was not sustainable or beneficial to the country, Russia had to move from this ideology because there were not enough productive families in the nation and too few children being born and raised (as a result of a massive abortion rates). The country reverted to the previous regime that saw the criminalization of abortion and a drastic decrease in welfare benefits, forcing people to not depend on the State anymore.

Though Russia’s failed attempt in the early 1900s was widely known, a large number of young people in the United States adopted the Free Love ideology in mid to late 19th century. Since then, we still observe semblances of the ideology today – one in the form of Feminism and other associated movements that push the egalitarian beliefs of biology and sexuality. Since these movements became prominent in the culture, marriage has seen a substantial dip in success (also dip in marriage rates) and women have become more unstable when considering long term relationships and marriage. Throughout the Manosphere there is a strong held notion that if you are seeking to share a life with a woman in the terms of marriage or LTR, she must have a very low notch count (or virgin, if you can find one) or at least not be an alpha widow. Women today who hear these wants from men typically get on the defensive and proceed to argue that we are all equal and “if men can do it, so can we”. On the surface this seems fair, however we in the Manosphere know that both genders have very different mechanics which goes against the equality trope spewed by society today.

The people at Heritage Foundation did an in-depth study on premarital sex and its likely outcomes within marriage. This post will specifically touch on a few of the results they got and how it affects us men today in the realm of looking towards marriage.

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The table above shows the estimated number of sexual partners a woman will have based on how early she engaged in intercourse. This graph is important because it can help gauge the number of sexual partners your woman or potential LTR women would have had before meeting you. There are always outliers but the chances of having an outlier in your life is not very probable. Since most women do lie about their notch count once they’ve already looked at you as a ‘relationship guy’, talking about first sexual encounters in a light manner should bring her defenses down enough that she would say when she had her first sexual encounter. Upon getting this information and analyzing this graph, you should be able to gauge roughly the number of sexual partners she’s had – taking into consideration factors such as her age etc.

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Women/girls who began sexual activity in their early years (teens) have greater difficulty in forming and sustaining stable marriage. In Red Pill terminology, because they have had as much cocks at an early age, their ability to pair-bond diminishes. Girls who initiate sexual contact at ages 13 or 14 are less than half as likely to be in stable marriages once reaches their 30s.

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These particular graphs shows the the link between sexual activity and happiness/depression. More than half the women who began sexual activity at ages 21 or 22 report that they are currently ‘very happy’ in life. In contrast, only 1/3 of women who began sexual activity at ages 13-14 report they are currently ‘very happy’. In the second graph, results show that around 7% of women that started sexual activity at ages 13 or 14 report that they currently feeling unhappy.However, those who started at ages 21 or 22 only accounted for 3% unhappiness. These graphs are also crucial because you don’t want to be the guy in the  5 year relationship who hears her say that she’s bored and she needs to “find herself” to become happy.

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Women who had 0 sexual partners before marriage were estimated to have an 80% success rate in marriage. Interestingly enough, just 1 sexual partner outside of marriage drops the success rate to 53%. From here the numbers continue to decrease as sexual partner count rises. Personally, this to me is probably the most valuable graph because it gives credence to the notion that you should marry a virgin woman or at least a women with no more than 2 partner counts, though the success rate goes into the negative end at partner 2.  Lastly, a study based on data from the National Survey of Family Growth 1995 cycle involved over 6500 women showed that cohabitation before marriage was another factor that increased the risk of subsequent divorce of a couple. This is because those couples who practice cohabitation tend to not value marriage highly and are likely to divorce when stress is put onto marriage. Other than this fact, Rollo specifically touches on the idea of cohabitation and why its a terrible idea for men. One of his Iron Rules: “NEVER under any circumstance live with a woman you aren’t married to or are not planning to marry in within 6 months” is pretty much spot on when compared to the statistics given above, though the reasons are different.

In conclusion, these graphs are more or less self-explanatory, it continues to give validity to the old age belief that a woman’s past is very important when gauging for LTR or marriage potential. In an age where divorce can literally ruin a man’s entire life and his empire, information such as these should be taken into consideration when making major relationship decisions. As fellow blogger McQueen once tweeted, “who you marry (if you do) will be the most important decision you ever make in life, better make sure she’s up for the job”. As such, I advise fellow men to not be naive when looking for a serious relationship with a woman and take steps to make sure you’re making the right decision.

Self-Sufficiency

“Why ask for your daily bread when you own the bakery?” 
― Randy Alcorn

After writing my piece on self-improvement it occurred to me that the next legitimate step from there is that of self-sufficiency/self-reliance. Self-sufficiency is defined as the ability to supply one’s own or its own needs without external assistance. In living in a consumerist world, this idea can seem foreign to many individuals, especially young people living in first world countries. However, the benefits of becoming self-reliant far outweigh the drawbacks; one becomes much more valuable, confident and productive in the eyes of oneself and others.

When reliance is placed on external individuals such as parents, a significant other, government and friends, there is never the act of truly making a personally decision. By relying on other people for advancement, you sit at the feet of those who produce or possess the things you require. This poses as a legitimate concern when having to make big decisions as you would have to seek the approval of others. By acknowledging the need to become more self-reliant, there are a number of steps that must be taken.

To begin, there has to be the implementation of a self-reliant mindset. This step entails owning up to the things that would normally require parents or others to perform for you. By doing this, you will begin to recognize just how self-reliant you truly are and would then be able to make subsequent alterations. For example, if you live with your parents, stop them from carrying about tasks for you, these would include duties such as doing laundry, dishes, cleaning, cooking etc. Afterwards, when you begin to personally perform these tasks, you are now then able to recognize how reliant you are and now  be able to go to step 2.

The second step is becoming knowledgeable regarding the tasks needed to done in your life. This differs amongst individuals but for the sake of simplicity, I will continue with the example of living with parents or guardian. By now having to cook your own meals, you will now need the knowledge on how to cook at least the basic essentials to survive. If you do not know how to cook, or do know how but cannot perform it on a regular basis you will need to begin learning how to cook as well as becoming disciplined enough to complete this task regularly. Another example that is relevant today is that of managing finances. A large majority of people grow up without having any legitimate knowledge of how to control finances. Consequently, when they are finally on their own they tend to get themselves in the deep end because they have truly been tossed into the deep end without knowing how to swim. By taking courses online or at local financial institutions you can be able to become financially literate. Managing finances in particular is something that needs to be seriously studied, especially at a young age as to not run into major problems later on. (Note, when doing this, try not to rely on your parents for this knowledge unless you truly cannot gather the information on your own).

Thirdly, based on your goals add and remove any relevant or irrelevant activities to create a more fluid lifestyle. By completing step 1 and 2 you would have seen how much or little time you have on your hands if you are on your own. I like to think of life as the human body – important activities such as working out and learning new skills are the muscle and crucial organs. The activities that you use to pass time such as playing video games, binge drinking and partying are considered the fat. To have a healthy lifestyle you must have both, but leaning more to muscle. Write down your plans for the future and adjust your life accordingly as you would be able to categorize your muscle gains from your fat gains.

Lastly, after following these three steps you will finally be in a place where you have a created a self-reliant mindset. At this point you have an understanding of what you need in your life and will be able to plan accordingly. You will be able to make decisions much more confidently and quickly as you now understand how your life operates. It is important to grasp that as life and desires change, there will always be alterations to your goals/needs/wants etc. As such, becoming self-reliant is a journey that carries one through many paths. Continually improve on what is needed in your life and frequently be introspective as this helps to keep focused on tasks ahead. Starting this sooner rather than later is always recommended, the time spent worrying about if people will come through for you can be spent on gaining knowledge of that particular need and finding ways to produce it.

The Romanticization of Marriage

Whilst browsing the internet a few weeks ago, I stumbled across this graph which compared the wants of both men and women with regard to their prospective significant other in the early 1900s to that of 2008. Upon analyzing the graph I couldn’t help but noticed the major increase in the importance of mutual attraction – love. During this period I was presently doing research on marriage prior but upon coming across the graph it emphasized my need to get a better understanding of romantic love and its historical beginnings. After much reading, I decided to write this article which will talk about the history of marriage, romantic love and the relevant science on the subject.

Marriage in past generations has been described as the union between two individuals but with an extreme importance on the extended family. Young people growing up within a community or tribe would have gotten married through arrangements made by elders in the family/community. This was done because marriage was looked at as the union of two economically interdependent families rather than solely two individual people. This system can be traced back to ancient hunter-gather times where marriage brought various kin groups together to coalesce resources. Men would hunt and share food among the kin groups whilst women gathered foods served as the steady base for the families’ diet. As time went and resources became abundant, this dynamic evolved and various kin groups began breaking away from extended families and gaining prestige. Over time this allowed the creation of small elite groups with commoners below and marriage then began as a way to gain alliances among differing classes. Individuals had little to no say in who they would marry, instead parents, neighbors and states decided which unions would be most productive for both the families involved and society/tribe at large. At this point though extended family gradually lost its initial importance, romantic love was not looked at as important in comparison to economic stability and spiritual union. However, this idea changed dramatically during the late 19th century, also known as the Romantic Era.

The late 19th century saw the transformation of the West from an agricultural to industrial based society. This period saw the rise of media and visual arts: operas, plays, dramas, paintings and films. It was through these various avenues that the pursuit of romantic love, particularly in association with marriage began to take place. During this period there was resistance and push back by men and women from the Church and State. The movement revolted against convention and authority with more focus on the search for freedom in personal, political and artistic life. It saw the death of rationalism and a revival of nation’s history and the push for  the liberation of  the oppressed people of the earth. With these events taking place, marriage met a new focus where there was growing intimacy, emotionalism and sentimentalism of family life. Since the arts became a staple in western culture, what was shown and portrayed influenced society to a significant degree. In addition to this, the idea was able to be driven the way it did as a result of the West becoming an industrial based society where capitalism allowed people for the first time in history, the ability to enjoy a high level of freedom, progress, achievement, wealth and physical comfort. As a result, marriage now became viewed as a pursuit of individual happiness rather than an economic necessity.

From the period of the late 19th century to that of today, society has seen the upsurge in divorce rates, infidelity and decreased happiness in marriage. The reason for this is directly as a result of the change in the foundational perspective of marriage. To show why romantic love can not be used as the base for marriage, one has to look at the science behind romantic love.

Based on studies done by Dr. Helen Fisher, it was observed that people who were in love – when shown a picture of their loved-one, displayed heightened levels of activity in the Caudate Nucleus of the brain which is responsible for the mind’s engine for arousal, sensations of pleasure and the motivation to gain rewards. Further tests highlighted that romantic love is associated with increased levels of dopamine because the Ventral Tegmental Area (where the reward system of the brain is located) is also the center for dopamine-making cells. Low levels of Serotonin – which is responsible for maintaining mood balance – also plays a major part in the process as it produces the obsession of one’s mate, which is also central to romantic love. However, as Red Pill theology teaches, romance fades as attachment grows. Increasing levels of hormone oxytocin, which produces feeling and behaviors of attachment lowers Dopamine, resulting in decreased romantic passion. Further tests were done, this time by London scientists Bartels and Zaki. Their experiment on love showed that subjects were generally in a state of being ‘in love’ for an average 2.3 years. After this period, when the men and women were shown the pictures of their beloved, activity was shown in the Anterior Cingulate Cortex (ACC) and Insular Cortex, while 7 month lovers showed none. The ACC is the region where emotions, memories and attention interact. This established that as relationships lengthen, the brain regions associated with emotions, memories and attention respond in news ways. In LTRs, feelings of love and attachment are still present but excitement and romantic ecstasy has disappeared due to the decline in dopamine. This waning of passion is often viewed by most individuals in the West as the loss of love and therefore warrants the end of a relationship and a dire for new romance.

These tests no doubt coincide with the current divorce statistics which show that most marriages fail during the first 5-10 years. It is no coincidence that with this cultural change in perspective that divorce rates have spiked in most Western countries. It also gives a factual reason as to why the levels of affairs within marriages have increased. Both men and women have become so  addicted to the feeling of being in love that once the passion dwindles (which will ultimately occur) in the confines of marriage, they look elsewhere for quick fixes. These affairs also usually last a year or two because the passion dwindle.

The idea of romantic love being used as the base for marriage should be abandoned, especially by men since there is more to lose. As Red Pill men it is of extreme importance to not be carried away by the gripping effect of infatuation when making possibly the most important decision of ones life. Marriage affects one financially, emotionally, physically and once children become involved, it enters a whole new stratosphere. As such, vet your potential spouse as best as you can, continue to lead and never let romance cloud your judgement. Characteristics such as dependable character, good health, chastity, housekeeping abilities and fertility should all come before the fleeting feeling of lust… choose wisely.

Self-Improvement

“I wish to preach, not the doctrine of ignoble ease, but the doctrine of the strenuous life, the life of toil and effort, of labor and strife; to preach that highest form of success which comes, not to the man who desires mere easy peace, but to the man who does not shrink from danger, from hardship, or from bitter toil, and who out of these wins the splendid ultimate triumph.” – Theodore Roosevelt

Self improvement is the core of Red Pill praxeology and has been preached  in the Manosphere as the key to cultivating masculinity. In past generations, men have always been pushed on a societal level to self-improve because when men are invested into society, they control and redirect their energies in the service of a prosperous and peaceful society. However, with women now being pushed into the forefront on a societal level to self-improve into becoming more masculine, men have gradually fallen and have not seen the need or benefit to continually self-improve. Added to this the feminine-primary order where women have become the focus group in many traditionally masculine sectors. This is seen in academia, the workplace as well as churches where women have been promoted above men in key positions. As a result of this dynamic change in the West, men have lost their passion and fervor to be great and have given the mantle to women.

In my time in the Manosphere, I have seen the push for self-improvement but I have also seen the reason for this push as being one that is shortsighted in that men are self-improving to better relate to women. This is admittedly how most men are introduced to the Red Pill community and self-improvement in general, which I why I can relate to it. However, as time goes by men must come to the realization that self-improvement goes beyond better acquiring their base psychological needs (sex) and should see it as necessary to become self-actualized. When one does not see the larger picture, activities become very masturbatory. Jack Donovan in his book The Way of Men refers to these activities as those that are done with no legitimate gain attached to it. These activities are done for the novelty of it and are usually done in a safe space where there is no real danger of being hurt, no real competition and potential for “status gains”, which are all important to men. Activities such as gaming, watching sports or watching porn are all masturbatory because the ‘benefits’ associated are fleeting and usually simply simulation. To combat this, men must look toward self-improvement that adds both short term and long term benefit to their lives.

One man who epitomized legitimate self-improvement was that of Theodore Roosevelt, the former President of the United States. Roosevelt grew up weak and sickly to the disappointment of his father but as he had gotten older he began the journey of self-improvement. This journey entailed pushing himself both mentally and physically which saw him take up activities such as hiking, boxing, rowing and horseback riding. Later in his life he continued pushing his body and his mind to self-improvement which ultimately saw him writing many books, exploring Amazonian rainforests, leading infantry into World War 1 at the age of 59 and serving as President for an unprecedented 3 terms to name a few. What is important to notice is that, Roosevelt understood the need for a strenuous life of self-improvement, one which continually puts both his body and mind on the edge. Only at this point men truly understand the height of their masculinity.

As we enter into 2016 I urge both myself and fellow men to do more. Don’t just go to the gym – learn a martial art form that allows you to use that strength and teach you how to fight as this is actually beneficial in a real-life situation. Don’t watch porn – go into the real world and have sex. Don’t just read books – begin debating or writing to better your craft. Don’t live a life of video game simulation – go out into nature, hunt, hike and do things that bring true benefits into your life, this is what self-improvement is all about.