Its Been Over A Year (Update)

It has been over a year since I’ve updated my blog though I have been active on my Twitter page. The main reasons for this being the need for me to settle into a new environment. Back in December I completed by Bachelors and about a week after, I was fortunate enough to land a management position at a small company. Coming into the new year my focus was on going full Monk Mode as I saw many areas needing to be improved in my life, but, I was not able to get into that zone. I attribute it to a level of mental burnout having just finished a long semester and getting straight into the workforce. Added to this, I recently launched a media company and have been busy making connections and ‘rubbing elbows’ with the right folks.

Added to that, just last week my relationship of 4 years ended and it hit me harder than I thought it would have. I knew her for over 10 years and been with her before I swallowed the Red Pill so the last remnants of that life has basically withered away. This isn’t to say I was in a Blue Pill relationship by any stretch, she was feminine, young, eager to please and had no notches before me. But, she wanted a level of commitment that I could not have fully given to her. She knew I had other women in my life and for the first 3 years this seemed not to be too much of a problem but in the past year when she confided that she loved me, this etched away slowly on her soul until she couldn’t take it any longer. I knew for about 6 months that the relationship was on borrowed time, we did crazy stuff, had lots of fun and genuinely enjoyed each other’s company, but in the back of my mind I knew it would rear its ugly head again – which it did.

As a man who tries to incorporate Stoic habits in his life, as well as being ‘Red Pill’, I understand all these things and will overcome them. But for now I am fully experiencing the range of emotions this situation handed me and navigating through it the best way I can. Much thanks also to Mark, Goldmund and all the other guys for gifting me with advice and well wishes. As for now, contemplation and introspection is what I will be doing while I move forward. Public writing is still not in the plans, but when the time comes you all would know.

The Long Game

***This article is much differently written and formatted than my usual posts because I felt the need to vent quickly and shortly. However, as you guys can see I’m back so expect regular posts from here on***

“The ability to discipline yourself to delay gratification in the short term in order to enjoy greater rewards in the long term, is the indispensable prerequisite for success.” Brain Tracy

For the majority of my childhood life forced me to delay gratification. As a child I didn’t grow up in the best of neighborhoods (actually, one of the worst) and my family didn’t have the financial means to live as smoothly as I would have liked. I can recall getting 50⊄ to a dollar at primary school because the family went through some extra rough financial patches. I remember being 14 years old throwing a tantrum at my dad because my friends were able to get things they wanted and I couldn’t. He let me finish then told me to suck it up and be grateful for what I had. In secondary school, when I was given an allowance he would always say, “it isn’t much but make it work” and this carried on until I got to college. I had to “ban my belly” for the sake of enjoying something at a later date. With the money for school, I would save 90% of it to have the chance to go to the movies with a girl or chill somewhere over the weekend. At the time I didn’t fully understand why I had to be the one to live this life; I also didn’t like that I did. But many years later and a little wiser, as I observe people around me more, I’ve come to appreciate those rough times because it built true character in me.

This pushed me to become innovative with the way I spent my money and how to make it. When I first understood how to torrent movies, I began selling DVDs to my teachers for $10 and when I built up a little capital, decided to sell anything that could get me money. You see, these experiences allowed me to see life not through a rose-tinted glass but the glass that’s clearest. Born from it is my love for business and entrepreneurship which to this day has stuck with me. If I didn’t go through those experiences of not having I don’t think I would have been this hungry to push myself and move forward in life. You see, the long game is not one that is wanted in todays world, people my age have grown up in an era where everything is provided quickly. From the evolution of high speed internet to Tinder, where you can easily bed more women than our ancestors could have ever imagined after no more than a 5 minute conversation. These luxuries afford us the opportunity to focus on other things; some use it to provide value for themselves and others whilst most become a permanent resident of consumer-town. Back when these things weren’t easily acquired you had to work ferociously to move up in society and because of that, people never felt entitled. They understood the long game for what it was and didn’t complain, but rather adapted to the circumstances life threw and dealt with it accordingly. This article is my first since being back and it really is for those people who are forced to live below their means for the sake of a much more fruitful tomorrow. Though it may seem that success is touching everyone but yourself, see it as success’ flirtations giving you frequent eye contact to let you know your approach is welcomed. Though you may falter and give in to temptations do not make it a frequent habit because as the Stoics believed, excessive pleasure can enslave you and create in you a dependency that must be fulfilled. If you are impulsive, learn to withhold and become more mindful. Truly study those who enjoy long term success in all spheres of their lives and one would realize that delaying pleasure today goes a long way in sustaining pleasure tomorrow. There is a popular statement in the Red Pill that goes, “Good things come to those you wait work” and it is definitely a true statement. However, be aware that though you work hard, it does not equate to instant success. Envision what you want from life, plan, execute but also be patient… true success isn’t a flame – quickly lit and quench – but rather like water – slow to build and slow to empty.

Opposites Attract

“What good is the warmth of summer, without the cold of winter to give it sweetness.” 

― John Steinbeck

From a tender age, I have always heard two trains of thought when it came to dating compatibility. On one end, there is the similarity belief that focuses on being with someone very similar to oneself; on the other is the complementarity belief that says opposites attract and one needs an opposite (of some sort) to have a successful relationship. In a blue pill, egalitarian aspiring world, the former tends to be the pushed belief for men when trying to coerce intimacy from women. Drawing from personal experience, I remember my logic of trying to identify with women as a way to attain intimacy as I believed creating as little friction as possible was the best way to her heart. Suffice it to say, as I got older I realized this belief was the furthest thing from the truth.

Blue Pill men today have been brought up in the belief that everyone is somewhat equal. This ideology has picked up an immense amount of traction over the past 20 odd years as Feminism and other groups have become major influencers in the culture – especially in the education sector. As a result, they now have significant vehicles, such as liberal universities and the film industry to push their idealized beliefs. Now, with young people having been brought up being educated by TV shows and movies, these beliefs take root from a tender age. This egalitarian belief spreads its wings into the dating game and identification game becomes the default. Since everyone is equal and male-female is deemed as ‘social constructs’, men are taught that they can act similarly to women. As such, men now believe that by behaving similarity to women, they will be noticed and appreciated for their efforts. I find myself laughing at this belief because it is clear that the evidence does not support this way of thinking. For every nice guy that changed himself to be more like the girl and was successful (define success), there are thousands of men fucking the girlfriends of guys like these. One can even observe men becoming illuminated as they post stories online bemoaning the fact that their beloved snowflakes are being pumped and dumped by assholes – men who are the complete opposite.

Through simple observation, one can see that nature is inherently unequal and somewhat opposite – this stays true for men and women. Identification game is not an effective or efficient game tactic because it doesn’t take into account that opposites truly do attract. In the eyes of a woman, she is attracted to that which she has not yet experienced. Today, we can see this happening as most girls now have become independent and are pushing to ‘explore’ and ‘experience’ life (the carousel) so she will better ‘understand herself’. Consequently, when one approaches these women with traits and likes similar to hers, she sees that individual as someone who has not yet understood himself or experienced life and thus, is not attractive. Any other man now has become much more attractive in the eyes of said woman because they all hold experiences that she has yet to explore. This is evident in Sheryl Sandberg’s famous quote:

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.”

Quotes like these illicit aggressive responses by crushed blue pill men because they have spent their lives trying to identify and become more like women that they now see their logic has been flawed since its inception. Worse yet, these men may even agree with what Sheryl says as another way identify with the female gender – the rational of blue pill men is appalling.

The idea of making oneself similar to women is highly unattractive to women. In their own theory, they may cry and say they want such men, but in actuality it proves contradictory. Science also debunks this train of thought. Based on studies done, it sheds light on the belief between similarity vs complementarity. All participants in this study were female, so it does provide a great setting. The results shows that complementary partnerships (submissive people with dominant partners and vice versa) reported more satisfaction than did those with similar partners. Another study in 1991 found that women in complementary pairs liked each other more after interacted for 75 minutes than did women in non complementary pairs. These results suggest that complementarity between two partners enhances their attractiveness to each other. In being a dominant opposite, you provide a strong frame for the relationship to grow and for her femininity to flow. Without that masculine presence, hypergamous doubts will set in and she will take it upon herself to fill that void, whether by becoming more masculine or finding a masculine guy. In being a weak submissive, you become a beta orbiter or at best, her ‘best friend’. Similarity in the realm of inter-gender dynamics will never truly be natural or satisfactory, strive to be polarizing in your conquest as it provides the rock and frame they all yearn to live in.

The Energies (Short Story)

In growing as a young writer, I’ve decided to refine my craft through the use of different forms of writing. As such,  I will also be releasing short stories on the 2nd and 4th Fridays of every month. Enjoy.


The Thursday night is quiet, not unusual as the clock only struck 6pm. On the prowl you notice women in their short skirts looking for a mistake to add to their collection, men watching sports on TV while consuming an unhealthy amount of beer and the background music is just loud enough to get you through the awkward silences but not loud enough to make communication awkward. In the darkened corners of the room are the men running scripts on unsuspecting young girls no older than 25. With each giggle the men are validated and continues their methodical series of questions, push-pull, amused mastery techniques. In the more lit areas near the sports spectators are the men with their girlfriends, laughing at their stale jokes just to get by while their eyes occasionally wander to the younger, more beautiful women in the clothes of fornicators. One particular man is all alone, though he has had many invitations to be occupied but none met his standard. He’s calm but his aura is one of dominance, drawing every fresh poon nearby. He sips his whisky cocktail, thinking that tonight would not give him the release he’s yearning for. In the corner of his eyes however, the door opens slowly and he becomes aware of a delicate specimen.

She enters the room with a meek confidence that draws men’s eyes in her vicinity. Not uncommon to her, she reacts with a bright smile that doesn’t do too much but is very inviting. Moments pass and she figures out her path – slowly strutting her petite body to the bar. She glimpses at the man, analyzing his exterior which screamed manly; the leather jacket, dark denim jeans and tall boots that only a powerful man can feel comfortable in. The bartender quickly notices her waiting and gets her drink order. In the distance, the man looks at her, pondering for another moment until he finally decides to make his move. He walks over with slowly, with an aura of purpose. He introduces himself with a touch on her elbows, notifying her of his intent and asks her name. She turns to him with a calm but surprised expression as though this has never happened to her before. As she tries to read him, his gaze pierces through her which doesn’t scare but reveals the type of man he is. Unconsciously, her hands roam, touching her hair and giving off a shy smile while he replies with a slight smirk that oozes confidence. She introduces herself, the man instantly noticing the tone of her voice elevating higher as she continues to speak, giving away her nervousness. His years of gaming women made this an easy task; he chats her up a bit, making her giggle without talking much and leaving an air of mystery to cloak himself. Without a missed beat, he calmly goes to her ear and whispers something that makes her teeth and lips come together. He then holds her hand, leading her outdoors while those onlookers’ eyes become fixated at what just transpired.

While leaving the room, her mind races as she thinks of something to ask, something to say, but in his presence she simply enjoys the bubble he has created. As they both get outdoors, he reaches into his pockets for a cigarette, lights it and inhales deeply while gazing onto the horizon. The orange sunset reminds him of the African jungle where predators roam in search of food before sundown. He smirks at the thought, with images of fornication flashing in his mind while the tobacco provides him with a mild high. She looks at him with an expression of wanting but doesn’t follow through in saying what is on her mind. Exhaling the thick fog of smoke from his lungs, he turns to her and wraps his arm around her waist, making concrete his intentions for the night. Though she isn’t used to this, the subtle dominance he exercises over her through his mannerisms immediately puts her at ease, almost as if she knew him her entire life. He looks down into her radiating eyes, knowing this is what he wants, and goes in for the kiss. She hesitates for just a moment but finally gives in to her newfound vice, passing her hand on his stomach letting him know she wants more. He pulls back slowly and looks back at her but she’s not able to sustain eye contact. He looks to his watch, pensively considers his options for an extended second. Carrying her by the waist, he leads her to the car while she rests her head on his broad shoulders. A few moments of driving and he stops at the top of a secluded precipice. He exits the vehicle, leans on the front of his car overlooking the final moments of the beautiful sunset while he lits another cigarette. She comes out of the car and walks to him, but this time not with the meek confidence of earlier but with an attitude that screams sensuality and femininity. The scent of tobacco draws her in and she realizes that as the sun goes down for the day, so to will her guard.

Covert Warfare

“The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.” – Sun Tzu

Warfare between the sexes has been present for as long as the influence of power in society. Men, being the more physically dominating force has always been overt in battle. As a result, highly masculine countries tend to be more violent than that of feminine countries, and this has been so since the beginning of civilization. Women however, being aware of their physical inferiority evolved over the centuries to become much more cunning and covert in their combats. In pre-historic times where men’s physicality was prioritized in society due to threats of the physical nature (beasts and rival tribes), men strived and stood at the forefront of societal power. However, for women to survive in these conditions they needed to be able use their cunning to ensure the survival of themselves and offspring. This meant that they would use their mental abilities to seduce and procreate with the elite men in their environment, the alpha males. As generations passed and with women learning more ways to conceal their guile, they became even more Machiavellian in their agendas and subsequent actions. This upper hand in the dark arts in addition to the demonization of outward physical violence resulted in not only the equal playing field but a power shift from male to female. Fast forward to today and we can observe the mental gymnastics women put men through without some of them even realizing.

One of the main reasons why the 48 Laws of Power is such a powerful and popular book amongst men, specifically those in competitive industries is due to the fact that most men do not understand covert, mental warfare. This excludes psychopaths, sociopaths and the like who are minute in numbers but powerful in ability. For men, since we have the power and ability to mold the world through the physical, the mental aspects of war (at least throughout the masses) has never been the default. If one looks at these laws objectively, one can observe that they follow the lines of the feminine mindset. Law 3, ‘Conceal Your Intentions” is an example of such a law. Women, through centuries of evolution have become extremely apt at concealing their agenda. This can be seen when women subtly flirt with men just enough to get them interested but not enough to make concrete their intentions. This form of craftiness is used by beautiful women since they already know the power of their appearances. When applied correctly, women are able to gain wealth, emotional support and other perks from men without actually giving in but simply showing promising signs of becoming theirs.

Law 5 is also a popular law used by most women in general, but specifically in social settings and the dating game. Reputation, especially for women is indeed very valuable. For most, reputation can mean the difference between acquiring a high quality man in a LTR or being passed around. I’ve slept with innocent looking women who told me secrets that would never make me even consider wifing them up, but in the eyes of her suitors and even boyfriends, they are as pure as the sacrificial lamb. The importance of reputation is also why women and gossip have always been synonymous; women who gossip understand the power of rumors and doubt. By concocting stories that are inflammatory which can create doubt about a woman’s social standing or sexual history, this can destroy their ability to acquire a quality man or elevate in the social hierarchy. Furthermore, this also shows why women become anxious when in the presence of both a present and former lover. In the mind of the present she is a catch but the ex has experienced things that is most likely buried deep into her memory bank that will not be said, at least not voluntarily.

Law 6 intertwines closely with the aforementioned as women crave attention, even when they state otherwise. This can be observed quickly in most women since they are very solipsistic. Women will never look at the world through abstract, objective eyes but through the lenses of herself and how it affects her. In Mad Men (one of my favorite shows), Don’s first wife, the beautiful Betty Draper is the epitome of a solipsistic woman. She found countless ways to make even the most trivial of things have a connection to her or their relationship. This is how women think. Regardless of what the topic area may be, they will find a way to make a connection and act accordingly. This can also be one of the reasons why they have been so apt at the cunning as without it they would not be acknowledged as a high valued woman. The knowledge of this evolution works wonder from men in the know, but blue pill idealist will forever moan the ‘complexities’ of women.

With the evolution of civilization to that of a more secure and prosperous one, western society has therefore demonized overt warfare. This is seen as physical violence and even contact sports have become softer as each year passes by. One can look at these actions as a way to make the environment much more comfortable for female’s presence. However, even with the removal of the open form of combat there will always be a substitute – the concealed forms, because war can never be fully removed. One way of fighting covertly is through the use of the Red Pill when dealing with women. On the surface it may not seem this way but look a bit deeper and one will realize that being equipped with Red Pill knowledge makes one better at relating with and dominating women – not in a physically abusive way but through the mind. This is why every man should understand the need for covert warfare. The great Sun Tzu said it perfectly, “Know thy self, know thy enemy. A thousand battles, a thousand victories”. As men learn to build their physical bodies as well as their mental abilities, they will become an unstoppable force that can adapt to any situation that is presented. Become that man and your life will become exceptionally greater.

Male Friendships

“Masculinity is about being a man within a group of men. Above all things, masculinity is about what men want from each other”
 ― Jack Donovan

In today’s world, genuine masculine friendships have become sort of a rarity. Film writers and directors have realized this and have been able to tap into this need by portraying characters who were surrounded with other like-minded men to go about their business. Band of Brothers, Ocean’s 11, Goodfellas, Sons of Anarchy and Hangover are all examples of such shows that epitomize brotherhood in their own unique way but evoke the same feeling from male viewers who begin to feel an emptiness in their lives if they aren’t truly part of a gang. In traditional times, boys would grow up within a core group who would have shared similar interests and had each other’s back. This came about naturally as men were pushed both directly and indirectly to make close male bonds with others who they would be able to build with. This was further pushed as boys would be given the room to be boys and through mutual struggles, being part of sports teams and fighting, a close bond would develop. However, as the world became more feminized, genuine friendships began to decrease at drastic rates and this can be seen today where millions of men are shown to have little to no close friends.

Due to the West’s prosperity and security, the life and death need (or lack thereof) to have a group of men at one’s side has also played its part. As a result, men have become much more feminine, untrustworthy and unreliable – traits that other men do not value. Added to this, the stark fatherless rates in society for young boys play a massive part as these boys grow up not knowing how to be men and what men do. Thus, masculine traits are not idealized and they grow up looking at the world from a more feminine perspective. It has also become common for men to openly boast about not having male friends or even speaking of the need for friends with disdain because “no one can be trusted”. This thorough brainwashing has created an environment where men do not see other men as individuals to build with but simply competition in the sexual market place as women are prioritized as #1.

This however is not a new phenomena since competition has always been present, but the priority to place women above a man’s interests has made male-only friendships susceptible to toxicity. Moreover, the infiltration of women into traditionally all-male spheres have also made male bonding a difficult task.  This was seen throughout history but it was permanently sealed when women began to enter into the workplace in mass numbers. The subsequent female control over men’s meet ups also etch into marriage where men now have to ‘ask permission’ from their wives to have meet-ups with other guys. Institutions that were once home to brotherhoods have now opened their gates to women and this inevitably changes the social dynamic. From a place of solitude and openness, these men are now tasked with keeping up appearances since sexual competition is added to the equation subconsciously. As soon as women enter into a male-only dynamic, the goal changes from growing better to making it comfortable enough for their presence – this ultimately defeats the purpose of these institutions. Though societies such as the Freemasons still adhere to the male-only tradition (at least in my country), there are hundreds of other institutions/groups (such as the Military) that have fallen to such a great test.

Having completed the Band of Brothers series, it was blatant how at ease and comfortable these men were among themselves while in the face of death. These men trained and fought together so much that their friendships would lead them to self-sacrifice for their brothers in arms. These are the types of friendships that have now become unimaginable since men won’t even consider putting themselves in an uncomfortable position for the sake of the other’s comfort/benefit. Having spoken to older men who didn’t see the need for friendships earlier in their lives, they have all regretted not taking the opportunity to genuinely form relationships with other men. They all stated that they have very little chance now to grieve, talk, console and the like with others since these are not genuinely possible with women. Consequently, these men become depressed and unhappy as they are not able to experience being part of a strong brotherhood. This especially affects veterans who went to war and came back home only to experience the world completely different. These guys tend to go into depression and become suicidal if they aren’t properly rehabilitated and meshed into civilized society. But, what gets them to the stage of contentment and peace? Having connected with other veterans who understand and experienced what they experienced. All the emotions and stories that they can’t speak to their wives, girlfriends and associates about would all be buried in their psyche if not for their fellow colleagues.

Jack Donovan’s “Way of Men” is an excellent resource into the benefits of forming a tribe of men to grow with. This group will help build connections that lasts as long or longer than marriage since male friendship is felt more deeply and strongly than female’s. Furthermore, these groups create a level of competition that is needed to truly evolve and become actualized. They push men to hold a standard that needs to be maintained for the sake of the group. It forms a togetherness that refines the masculinity of each member and facilitates in the expansion of their physical dominance, mental dominance and the like. Without the pressure or competition, these men become dull and easily defeated.

The need for bonding and purpose runs through the veins of all men but in the past few decades it has been wrongly channelled toward female companionship which doesn’t yield comparable benefits. Forming genuine bonds will not only make life much more exciting, it will provide opportunities for mutual growth and an edge that cannot be substituted by another.

Emotions

“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
― Oscar Wilde

As men grow in their pursuits of becoming the best versions of themselves, they are forced to alter many of their beliefs and routines. This is especially relevant when it comes to bedding high quality women as the stakes become higher and more adjustments need to be made. Based on my experiences and conversations with other young men, there is a misconception that emotions are a sign of weakness, and as men we should not tap into that space frequently. However, a look at  great men throughout history as well as men who are truly great with women, will tell you that emotions does have its place in a man’s life, especially in game. If a man sticks strictly rational and logical in his pursuits of women, this becomes a crutch to his evolution because women are inherently emotional creatures. What does this mean? It means that emotions are to be embraced and used as a tool, just like everything else in the Red Pill praxeology to have a more successful life.

Im not advocating for men to become more emotional but rather to use emotions in a way that  helps create more successful relationships. Personally, I truly believe men are to be the rock of any relationship – may it be a one night stand or LTR. However, as your game becomes more refined, you begin to understand that emotions are a crucial part of acquiring and maintaining great relations with women. As men, we do not have the luxury of fully enjoying the thrills of love as women do. They are able to wholeheartedly lose themselves in these emotions while we are left having to create those moments. By remaining completely stoic in your pursuits of wanting to bed women, the passions of love/lust are not explored and the highs and lows women yearn for are not satiated. This pushes them to search for someone who will satisfy these wants and thus, feelings toward you become even more fleeting.

Women yearn after the emotional thrills a man can give her. As soon as she experiences it, she becomes addicted to these feelings and will always look for her fix. Take for example alpha men who became beta during the course of a relationship. One of the main reasons why they become this way is due to them not being able to have the emotional impact they had prior and as stated, this drives a woman toward men who can give her these feelings. These emotions need not be happy emotions, but it can also be feelings of anger, jealously (dread) and even hate. This is why hate-sex/make-up sex is usually so passionate; the emotional high a woman experiences surpasses the banal alterations of her emotions on a daily basis.

Fundamentally, this is one of the key facets that separate alphas from betas. Alphas are able to unlock and unleash an emotional state, either high or low that makes him the man she craves. Betas, by being supplicant sabotage themselves by playing nice because it gives no high or low, but rather platitudinous routine. From a meta standpoint, this cannot be any more truer. Women have been given untold luxury our ancestors never dreamt imaginable yet, instead of building off these luxuries by having a stable life, in their prime years they ride the carousel to find themselves. As Red Pill aware men we understand the dynamic at work – Alpha Fucks/Beta Bux – however, you can also observe that the primary elevates her emotional state whilst the latter levels it.

There is an inherent want from women to explore their heightened emotional senses where they can simply let go and be completely carried away in the moment. Emotions for this matter, becomes the essential tool needed to get her to this state. Make her feel love, hate, jealously, envy and the like and she will always come back for more. For a woman, a heightened state of emotional activity whether it be positive or negative will always trump numbing expectancy; as soon as you understand this, women’s feelings toward you will increase exponentially. As the sentiment goes, it is much better to be loved or hated by a woman than it is for her to feel indifferent toward you – use emotions well and you will always be the man she comes to for her fix.