“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
― Oscar Wilde
As men grow in their pursuits of becoming the best versions of themselves, they are forced to alter many of their beliefs and routines. This is especially relevant when it comes to bedding high quality women as the stakes become higher and more adjustments need to be made. Based on my experiences and conversations with other young men, there is a misconception that emotions are a sign of weakness, and as men we should not tap into that space frequently. However, a look at great men throughout history as well as men who are truly great with women, will tell you that emotions does have its place in a man’s life, especially in game. If a man sticks strictly rational and logical in his pursuits of women, this becomes a crutch to his evolution because women are inherently emotional creatures. What does this mean? It means that emotions are to be embraced and used as a tool, just like everything else in the Red Pill praxeology to have a more successful life.
Im not advocating for men to become more emotional but rather to use emotions in a way that helps create more successful relationships. Personally, I truly believe men are to be the rock of any relationship – may it be a one night stand or LTR. However, as your game becomes more refined, you begin to understand that emotions are a crucial part of acquiring and maintaining great relations with women. As men, we do not have the luxury of fully enjoying the thrills of love as women do. They are able to wholeheartedly lose themselves in these emotions while we are left having to create those moments. By remaining completely stoic in your pursuits of wanting to bed women, the passions of love/lust are not explored and the highs and lows women yearn for are not satiated. This pushes them to search for someone who will satisfy these wants and thus, feelings toward you become even more fleeting.
Women yearn after the emotional thrills a man can give her. As soon as she experiences it, she becomes addicted to these feelings and will always look for her fix. Take for example alpha men who became beta during the course of a relationship. One of the main reasons why they become this way is due to them not being able to have the emotional impact they had prior and as stated, this drives a woman toward men who can give her these feelings. These emotions need not be happy emotions, but it can also be feelings of anger, jealously (dread) and even hate. This is why hate-sex/make-up sex is usually so passionate; the emotional high a woman experiences surpasses the banal alterations of her emotions on a daily basis.
Fundamentally, this is one of the key facets that separate alphas from betas. Alphas are able to unlock and unleash an emotional state, either high or low that makes him the man she craves. Betas, by being supplicant sabotage themselves by playing nice because it gives no high or low, but rather platitudinous routine. From a meta standpoint, this cannot be any more truer. Women have been given untold luxury our ancestors never dreamt imaginable yet, instead of building off these luxuries by having a stable life, in their prime years they ride the carousel to find themselves. As Red Pill aware men we understand the dynamic at work – Alpha Fucks/Beta Bux – however, you can also observe that the primary elevates her emotional state whilst the latter levels it.
There is an inherent want from women to explore their heightened emotional senses where they can simply let go and be completely carried away in the moment. Emotions for this matter, becomes the essential tool needed to get her to this state. Make her feel love, hate, jealously, envy and the like and she will always come back for more. For a woman, a heightened state of emotional activity whether it be positive or negative will always trump numbing expectancy; as soon as you understand this, women’s feelings toward you will increase exponentially. As the sentiment goes, it is much better to be loved or hated by a woman than it is for her to feel indifferent toward you – use emotions well and you will always be the man she comes to for her fix.